詹妮弗安妮斯顿与皮特离婚是说的话

转载于 2013-11-12 10:56:17 发布 · 1.3k 阅读

本文探讨了婚姻中的起伏变化，强调了面对困难时的态度至关重要。作者认为，维持婚姻的关键在于双方能否一起度过难关，并在此过程中加深彼此的理解和感情。然而，当两人的观念存在根本分歧时，关系将难以维系。

"It's like the ebb and flow of every relationship," Aniston says. "It's hard; it gets easy; it gets fun again. What's hard to sustain is some ideal that it's perfect. That's ridiculous. What's fantastic about marriage is getting through those ebbs and flows with the same person, and looking across the room and saying, 'I'm still here. And I still love you.' You re-meet, reconnect. You have marriages within marriages within marriages. That's what I love about marriage. That's what I want in marriage. It's unfortunate, but we live in a very disposable society. Those moments where it looks like 'Uh-oh, this isn't working!'—those are the most important, transformative moments. Most couples draw up divorce papers when they're missing out on an amazing moment of deepening and enlightenment and connection."

She sighs heavily and turns away to light a Merit cigarette. "That's not Brad's view of it," she says, glum again. "We believe in different things, I guess. You can't force a relationship, even if it's your view of how you would like it to be conducted. Obviously two people leave a relationship because there's a different thought pattern happening. My goal is to try and achieve a very deep, committed relationship. That's what I'm interested in, but it's someone's prerogative to be or not to be in or out of a relationship.

每段关系都有漩涡和波浪，有时很艰难，有时很宁静，有时充满乐趣。

最艰难的时刻往往是你想追求一种完美的境界，但那是可笑而不现实的。

婚姻最神奇之处在于，在经过了那么多漩涡和波浪后，站在你身边的还是同一个人，

你仍然深切地感受到，自己爱着对方。每次争执，总能让你们重新相遇，重新相知，

重新相爱，在婚姻中，你们再展开一段新的婚姻，如此永远延续，没有终点。

这就是我喜欢婚姻的原因，也是我希望从婚姻中得到的。

但是很不幸，我们生活在一个任性的时代里，

一遇到问题，首先想到的就是‘糟糕，过不下去了’，那是最重要、决定性的时刻，

因为一旦有了这种想法，人们自然而然就签订了离婚协议，

他们不知道，自己已经错过互相迁就、互相认错、重新证明爱情的机会，那才是最美好的。

但是很遗憾，这不是他的婚姻观。我们的观点完全不同，若观点根本不一致，

就无法勉强继续一段关系。我希望获得的是灵魂深处最忠诚的关系，