The secret behind France's astonishingly well-behaved children.
When American journalist Pamela Druckerman has a baby in Paris, she doesn't aspire to become a "French parent." French parenting isn't a known thing, like French fashion or French cheese. Even French parents themselves insist they aren't doing anything special.
Yet, the French children Druckerman knows sleep throug...
The secret behind France's astonishingly well-behaved children.
When American journalist Pamela Druckerman has a baby in Paris, she doesn't aspire to become a "French parent." French parenting isn't a known thing, like French fashion or French cheese. Even French parents themselves insist they aren't doing anything special.
Yet, the French children Druckerman knows sleep through the night at two or three months old while those of her American friends take a year or more. French kids eat well-rounded meals that are more likely to include braised leeks than chicken nuggets. And while her American friends spend their visits resolving spats between their kids, her French friends sip coffee while the kids play.
Motherhood itself is a whole different experience in France. There's no role model, as there is in America, for the harried new mom with no life of her own. French mothers assume that even good parents aren't at the constant service of their children and that there's no need to feel guilty about this. They have an easy, calm authority with their kids that Druckerman can only envy.
Of course, French parenting wouldn't be worth talking about if it produced robotic, joyless children. In fact, French kids are just as boisterous, curious, and creative as Americans. They're just far better behaved and more in command of themselves. While some American toddlers are getting Mandarin tutors and preliteracy training, French kids are- by design-toddling around and discovering the world at their own pace.
With a notebook stashed in her diaper bag, Druckerman-a former reporter for The Wall Street Journal-sets out to learn the secrets to raising a society of good little sleepers, gourmet eaters, and reasonably relaxed parents. She discovers that French parents are extremely strict about some things and strikingly permissive about others. And she realizes that to be a different kind of parent, you don't just need a different parenting philosophy. You need a very different view of what a child actually is.
While finding her own firm non, Druckerman discovers that children-including her own-are capable of feats she'd never imagined.
作者简介
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Pamela Druckerman is a former staff reporter for The Wall Street Journal, where she covered foreign affairs. She has also written for The New York Times, The Washington Post, and Marie Claire, and appeared on The Today Show and NPR's Morning Edition. Her previous book, Lust in Translation, was translated into eight languages. She has a master's degree in international affairs f...
Pamela Druckerman is a former staff reporter for The Wall Street Journal, where she covered foreign affairs. She has also written for The New York Times, The Washington Post, and Marie Claire, and appeared on The Today Show and NPR's Morning Edition. Her previous book, Lust in Translation, was translated into eight languages. She has a master's degree in international affairs from Columbia. She lives in Paris.
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1 有用 躲在便利商店的吉赛尔 2016-01-20 03:41:10
用奶娃的时间读完了，太崇拜自己了。作者描述的带娃怂样实在太写实了，哈哈哈哈哈。这里边儿的看似很轻而易举的法国做法在实际运用中，着实有难度。而美国人那一套带娃的方法又如书中所讲，太把孩子当回事儿了吧。另外，书里那个yoghurt cake recipe倒是屡试不爽，超好吃！
0 有用 xclair 2021-04-02 22:04:28
Fun read as parenting book goes, but the advice à la française is fraught with problems
0 有用 希嘉露 2025-04-03 02:23:32 美国
有声书里的法式英语真的能笑死人。法国人的育儿哲学和家属的还蛮像的，欧洲人看重爱与自由的同时，也很在意父母自身的精神健康和边界。一句话就是把小孩当人尊重对待。
2 有用 兔尔爺 2022-07-31 00:17:10
美国的父母还是醒醒吧，书里说的那些光面堂皇的故事和理念的大前提是universal healthcare, paid parental leave, 和free childcare。
0 有用 杂草 2023-12-19 04:41:20 美国
挺有趣的。也许是我读的美国育儿书还不够，没觉得美国有书里描述的那么溺爱孩子。法国育儿总结来讲就是把孩子不当孩子当个懂事的人，然后不为了孩子迷失自我。还是挺有借鉴意义的。不过很反感the part说法国女人都自愿承担大部分的家庭和育儿责任因为男人天生就不会做。HELLO?! 如一位豆友所言，波伏娃会从坟墓里爬出来的。。。男人就是这么被男权社会惯出来的。我坚持男女共同承担家庭和育儿责任，没有哪一方天生... 挺有趣的。也许是我读的美国育儿书还不够，没觉得美国有书里描述的那么溺爱孩子。法国育儿总结来讲就是把孩子不当孩子当个懂事的人，然后不为了孩子迷失自我。还是挺有借鉴意义的。不过很反感the part说法国女人都自愿承担大部分的家庭和育儿责任因为男人天生就不会做。HELLO?! 如一位豆友所言，波伏娃会从坟墓里爬出来的。。。男人就是这么被男权社会惯出来的。我坚持男女共同承担家庭和育儿责任，没有哪一方天生就是做苦力的命。 (展开)