Self Love, Pleasure and Orgasm

Coaching

Increase your confidence and honour your deepest desires by creating a new relationship with your body.

By prioritising yourself you will not only become better at giving pleasure but also receiving it (no more faking or pretending!)

I know how hard it can be to see everyone else having the orgasms and sex life that you so badly desire.

I know what it feels like to fake more orgasms than you can count.

I know what it feels like being alone, stuck and believing that no one will ever understand.

You want to feel pleasure, you want to enjoy sex. You want to desire your partner.

You want to own your pleasure and your orgasms.

BUT

Right now you don’t even know where to start.

You feel stuck.

Your pleasure eludes you and sex might even feel painful, a chore to keep your partner happy.

This might have been your story for 1 year, 5 years, 10 years or more …

So let’s do something about this.

This does not have to be your story anymore …

6 Month Coaching Package

18 x 60 min 1:1 Coaching Sessions

(3 sessions a month with 1 week for integration)

This is a deep dive into your sexuality and everything that impacts your sexual life: self love, body love, anatomy, shadow work, fantasies, boundaries, self worth to name just a few things we will cover.

We will meet up monthly for three 60 min coaching sessions on zoom with one week off to integrate and put into practice everything that you have learnt. This will give you ample time to become familiar with the practices and tools so that they become your own.

I will be available between sessions via Whatsapp and email to further support you on your journey, because this is where the magic really happens; it is often between sessions that clients face resistance to practices or implementing things. Having that extra support makes all the difference in terms of how quickly and easily you can make these changes so there is no waiting until your next session.

After each session you will receive a recap of the session. These will build on one another essentially providing you with your own toolkit of everything that you have learnt so you have access to it for life.

You will also have the option of recording our sessions together so you can revisit each session as many times as needed. This means that you need not worry about taking notes and you can instead be fully present during the session; if you want to revisit or review anything it is available to you at the click of a button.

Between sessions you will receive Playwork (my version of homework) to help you integrate, practice and embody what we discussed and worked on in the session. This will vary each week depending on your needs but will include things like guided meditations, recorded practices, pleasure practices and journaling so you are fully resourced and have tools you can return to long after our work together is done.

What will all of this cost you?

$400 USD per month x 6 months

As a South African, I also offer an adjusted rate due to the currency exchange.

SA resident price: R3500 per month x 6

We are seldom taught that our pleasure matters.

As a result we don't prioritise our pleasure.

We don't know how to ask for what we desire because we don't even know what we desire.

We learn from a young age that our bodies and our sexuality are for someone else. We end up faking our orgasms and our pleasure.

We feel ashamed to masturbate or touch ourselves and most of us don't even know what we look like "down there".

None of this is your fault

BUT

YOU get to decide to change the status quo

So let me show you how ...

Hi, I am Héloïse

And I faked my orgasms for 15 years.

So I know a thing or two about what it feels like to struggle sexually.

I was never told that my pleasure mattered or was important so I had no idea how to ask for what I wanted with a partner.

I struggled with being the perfect girlfriend and partner and doing everything "right" for the person that I loved, so much so that I never prioritised my own needs.

I was convinced that I was broken and that there was something seriously wrong with me - everyone else seemed to be having amazing sex.

I had no one to talk to and I felt completely alone.

I had to go back to the very beginning and figure all of this out with the help of my teacher, Layla Martin and numerous other coaches.

I started asking more questions and speaking up about my struggles.

What turns me on?

What excites ME?

No one had ever asked me these questions before.

I did not know what interested me sexaully or what I desired.

As I started opening up about my difficulties I learnt that it does not have to be this way and that there was never anything wrong with me or my body.

Now I listen to what my body wants.

I feel so confident that I can ask my partner for whatever it is that I desire without feeling any shame or guilt.

I embrace who I am as a sexual being as beautful, whole and complete.

And this is why I am the best person to help you on your journey.

Does your pleasure and sexual satisfaction feel like the last thing on a neverending to do list?

Have you just about given up feeling sexy and desirable?

Do you struggle to get in the mood and does sex feel like just another chore that needs to be done?

Are you struggling to orgasm and feeling disconnected from your pleasure?

Do you feel numbness or pain or nothing at all during sex?

Are you feeling confused because you love your partner but feel no attraction or desire for them?

Do you fake your orgasms and sexual pleasure?

If you answered yes to any of these questions I want you to know that this is so, so common.

AND

This does not have to be your story.

All of this and more can change if you decide you want it to change.

You get to decide that enough is enough.

You are worthy of all the pleasure and orgasms that YOU desire - and I’m ready to support you through the practical steps of making that happen.

My goal is simple:

I want to live in a world where we ALL get to thrive sexually. Where our pleasure is not an afterthought. I want to see women embracing and loving their bodies and speaking up about what they desire.

I desire for you to fall crazily in love with yourself AND I know all of this is possible because I have seen client after client have these kinds of results.

Coaching is a partnership. So this means you will have someone on your side, rooting for you and cheering you on so that you can THRIVE in your sexuality!

I’ll provide the exact tools you need to focus on each day so that you can start seeing results.

I will lovingly hold you accountable and make sure that you take those baby steps everyday in the direction of your desires.

Client Testimonials

"It's been a crazy journey with Heloise and she has taught me so much. I feel empowered, proud of my sexuality and so relieved that I'm actually not alone in faking orgasms (which I don't do anymore). She explained why we do it and has helped me physically and emotionally recover. She's the guide and friend every young woman needs. I'm so grateful I stumbled upon her Instagram page and was brave enough to ask for help because I got more than ever could have imagined. Thank you so much!"

- Sarah

So here is the thing, if you are sick of seeing everyone else having the orgasms and sex life that you so badly desire.

If you have made it all the way to this point.

You know that you are ready for something to change.

You know that you desire more for yourself.

AND

That can feel scary.

It can feel scary investing in your pleasure and ultimately your happiness and wellbeing.

AND

It can feel even worse doing nothing about it.

So you have a choice, you have always had a choice.

So I am curious, are you ready to choose YOU?

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FAQs

This sounds great but I am worried I won’t have the time to commit to this?

Life happens, time passes and I can guarantee that there will never be the perfect time to focus on this work. You will need to create the space to do this work.

Most of us, if we are really honest with ourselves, do have the time; it is just a matter of rearranging our priorities.

What I notice time and time again is that, as women, we have time for everyone but ourselves. We constantly put our needs and desires last which more often than not is how we got here in the first place.

So if you truly don’t have the time I fully respect and understand that. But if you do have the time and you are simply not making yourself a priority then my invitation would be to get curious around why you are not a priority in your life?

Life can be complicated and if we don't find a way to connect to ourselves and our pleasure we tend to miss out on all the amazing things that life has to offer.

What if I don’t have this kind of money to spend on myself?

This is a question that I have often grappled with when it comes to spending money on coaching for myself. So I totally get it. Sometimes you genuinely don’t have the money and other times you do have the money, you have just put it aside for something else, a holiday, paying off a car etc.

What I noticed is that more often than not I did have the money I had just prioritised something else as more important.

So my question to you would be what are you prioritising?

We get to choose how we spend our money and what is important to us at any given moment. Sometimes prioritising expenses is the way to go and sometimes spending it on yourself, spending it on something you want to change and work on, like sex coaching might be what is best for you.

So my invitation to you would be to feel into what feels true to you, what feels like a bigger priority in your life at this moment and be honest with yourself.

Do I have to tell my partner I am doing this work?

You most certainly do not have to tell your partner anything about our sessions.

It may come to a point where in order for you to continue growing you will desire to share aspects of the process with your partner but that will always be your choice and I will support you in that.

What if it doesn’t work for me?

I get this question a lot. “What if I am too far gone?”, “What if I am that one client that this just does not work for?”

Pleasure is a learnable skill. Just like creating a relationship with our bodies, it is something that you can practise over time and you will get better and better at it.

If you are willing to do the work and you come with an open heart you will see results, that I have no doubt about!

In order to reclaim my sexuality do I have to wear lingerie and flaunt it everywhere?

Absolutely not. This is what I love about this work. You are reclaiming your sexuality for yourself. Just like we are all unique and have different ways of doing things, our sexuality is no different. You may desire to flaunt your sexuality and be admired in your sexinness or you may choose to wear conservative clothing and reserve your kinky side for your partner. You may love vanilla sex or you may realise that having sex once a month is what you like and enjoy.

There is no right or wrong way to be a sexual being on this planet and I am giving you the confidence to own whomever you are as a sexual being. No more pretending, no more making yourself wrong or trying to copy others. You get to “do you” and whatever it is that lights you up.

What if I struggle to speak about sex, will it be awkward?

I totally understand that for many of us we have never spoken to anyone about our struggles or sex point blank. So yes it can feel hard and I promise I will make you feel as comfortable as I possibly can. I will meet you wherever you are. And just because I swear and use the word “pussy” a lot does not mean you have to.

If you have any other questions feel free to reach out to me or hop on a free call:

My desire is to support you to make the best decision and investment for yourself.