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  • I don’t know, I’ve never had them before. Like maybe I’m expressing that poorly that’s not what butterflies mean?

    Like tingly feeling that wasn’t there before. Especially when picturing something a bit more spicy or intimate without being especially sexual… Like I feel in my chest and lower?
    Like before hrt. I’ve never felt that.


  • I love my parents despite their flaws and they accepted and are trying to be supportive but… When I made my coming out things were said that was not really ok.

    “Better that than a disease or cancer” … I mean REALLY do I have to be compared to cancer or some kind of awful disease.

    “Be careful about HIV.” - > everyone should be careful about that. I know where this comes from but… Still.

    And the classic : “you’re still my son”

    At the end they said child at least when I told then that’s not the goal of my transition.

    I understand they are from a different generation still. And somehow that was the best reaction they could have in my mind.

    Edit : I gave them some reading to understand a bit better some things. But teaching parents is hard.



  • Shirow@lemmy.ziptoTransfem@lemmy.blahaj.zoneDenial arc??
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    1 day ago

    Hey, not sure this will help.

    Basically societaly i have given 0 clues to others that I was trans. Always have been the person people expected me to be. And somehow, after my own revelation (at a drag show 😊) I was like. Damn but there’s a community here actually. They do exist. When I look back a lot of things make sense about my own identity (maybe I do want to link some event to my transidentity but even then? Do I really need to convince myself? Probably a bit deep down.)

    Everyone transitioning is valid whatever they lived. If “You” want to do it (I do put emphasis in the you part it is important). Then you should do it. It’s ok not knowing exactly who you want to be. I was stuck a really long time (thick egg shell, but not only.).

    Everything escalated quickly after that, even hrt, and well after 3 months and half, no regrets. I love the changes. It gave me motivation to change, weight loss through proper care (not easy everyday still), affirming myself, do things I forbade myself, knowing it wouldn’t be “me” - the image I was reflecting the world - not my inner self… To me it was a liberation.



  • Shirow@lemmy.ziptoTrans@lemmy.blahaj.zoneHow's your week been?
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    2 days ago

    Honestly good and bad things?

    I did some things I could never imagine doing. Not gonna extend on that. I have now, what I consider a best-friend. That was not something I have made in ages. I’ve been on a guilt-trip too and had a day where dysphoria was a bit over the top and had some intrusive thought. (Not too hard things, no worries about that)