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Whats a Dream?

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December 6, 2024

I talk a lot about Dreams and Goals – but this question is not apply to that type of dream, but the dreams you have while you sleep.

There are a lot of arguments as the meaning of the images and stories we see while we sleep, some nights you have none, others a lot, and every now and then you have some that just feel so real that you carry the emotions that it triggered throughout your day. Some people claim that they never have dreams, while others can remember and account for all sorts of dreams that they have dreamt.

I, myself, each night, my dreams go from not remembering, to full detail to an overload of emotions to wake up to. I wonder when I have some of these vivid dreams, if there is a meaning to them, if its my subconscious speaking to me, the universe trying to send me a message or another persons thoughts entering my mind to make me reach out. These are a few of the theories that you can find regarding dreams.

I, personally, believe that they are connected to our minds, our emotions, our hidden thoughts and emotions that we are not processing like we should each day. That they are there for our minds to remind us or to test us. To see how something really feels, to focus on what we are neglecting & a way to get a glimpse of what we need to be taking care of that we may not be.

This is not to say that crazy erotic dream that you had about your ex or friend means that you want them back – it could just purely mean that you have connections that you need to look at around you. There could be something reoccurring or out of the normal in these dreams that you should be paying attention to that is trying to get a message through to you & you haven’t been listening to your gut, so your subconscious has found a way to get your attention.

You can look up in several places the meanings of these things. Take Pillows, for example, if you dream about Pillows, it could have something to do with how safe/comfortable you are feeling, the amount of pillows and condition of the pillows can symbolize the safety part of the state of your mind & let you know that you have either found something to make you feel safe again or that you need to find that safety and security again.

Whether you believe dreams have meanings or not – is all up to you – I am curious though if you have ever woken up from a dream that felt so real, that your head and your heart were just confused the rest of the day as to if it was real or just a dream, because those emotions you woke up feeling, those were definitely real emotions triggered in response to whatever that most intense dream was you just woke from.

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The Stories only Eyes can Tell

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November 29, 2024

We all have our stories, we all have what makes us happy, what makes us cry, and what keeps us going. Some people are good at understanding and reading others, knowing what to say or what to do to elicit the emotional response they want from another.

Some do this maliciously, while others are doing it to purely help and connect with another. It can be hard to tell the difference between which is good and which is not. But this is a story for another time. I want to focus on the responses from these things that can be said or done & how they respond to others. Where you can see the world from another person, connect to another person, or just find a view into their world.

I have always been a person for eyes myself. The story that can be shared from one person looking into the eyes of another. You can connect their words to their emotions or even find the truth behind their words. The unspoken words that attach to various emotions can be pick up on by looking into ones eyes.

You can see someones joy, pain, excitement, distant, sadness and so much about them and how they are really doing in a situation. Sometimes you can see someones longing, worry or them wondering off to a place of their imagination or memory.

Its truly amazing to me to know that someone can give you the bravest of smiles & words to match, but be suffering in so much pain or discontent with things, but the fear to let someone into their world, to connect with them on that level and/or the distrust of how another would take what is really going on in their world.

We need to learn to build trust & connection – we shouldn’t need to rely on being able to interpret what story we can read when looking into someones eyes. We should feel safe to share our joys, pains and dreams. We need to find friends we can connect with & not have to hide ourselves behind our smiles & our words, where we can make our eyes connect to the story that they are telling & feel safe to tell the story, the dream, the emotions, and all of the above.

I am sure you are like but you can’t trust everyone, if you have been reading my blog far enough back, you know that I am fully aware that it can be hard to find someone to trust & sometimes, even when you think you have someone you can trust, they turn out to not be the person you had hoped or thought they were. It happens, but we need to not let that stop us from still trying to find those that will support us and connect with us.

Don’t let only your eyes tell your stories that you are too afraid to speak – speaking them will help you find your tribe and those that will support you to find your dreams or even just sit with you until you are ready to get up and try again. They will be there no matter how great the joy or deep the pain.

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The Limbo Room

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October 20, 2020

We have discussed what it looks like to be a hero and a villain. We have discussed how a villain can be made or how one can choose to decide when the opportunity is give to them.

In this story, we are going to discuss those that choose to never be more then present. That choose to never achieve or be apart of the great things they were meant to do. In the same breath, they also never learn to be a villain that holds others down. They are just there and the impact that can have on others.

One who never leaves their comfort zone to learn and take every opportunity to hide using the claim of safety and security is who we are talking about. By the naked eye, it would be thought that this person has no impact on others and can’t have an impact on others as they are just there, they are not actively helping and supporting, but they are also not actively breaking others down. They are just there, with no real strong roll to play. Their roll is passive and not as obvious to the impact they have on others.

This person never learns to become more as they are too worried about how if they fail will look to others. They are too worried to speak their mind for fear of the judgement that will pass. In do so, they just do the bare minimum to get by, for themselves. They choose to have safety and familiarity rather then true happiness and success, they choose these things in trade for their real potential, never achieving as they are too worried about failing and what others will think.

How then does this person impact others? This person is an enabler of the Victim and Villain. This person complacency allows the Victim to be justified for not making the choices they need to get out of their situation and shows the Villain that they are correct and others will never grow and become more. What about the Hero? How does this person in limbo impact another from becoming a Hero? They hold themselves back, they stop themselves from learning to become more, they use their own fears to stop themselves and hold themselves in Limbo with them, because its safer. Their influence can stop a Hero in their tracks from becoming who they are meant to be.

In a book, by Dr Seuss, Oh the Places you will go, they talk about the Waiting room. This room is where those in limbo stay and prefer to stay. Then they never have to worry about the bad that can happen, they know they are always safe and they always have an excuse of what they are waiting for, so they never have to leave the waiting room. While that may sound great for this person, you also never truly experience the good, you never get to see the amazing things that can happen and you never get to learn about how far you really can go.

We become like those we spend our time around, it is said to remove those from your life that do nothing to help it become more or help you achieve your goals and dreams. These are the hardest people to let go of in your life as they are not actively trying to hold you back, its just how they feel safe and they really want you to be safe. But you can never become the hero you are meant to be if you just spend all your time in the waiting room.

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Prodigy

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February 27, 2020

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There is almost always that one, the one child that can do no wrong. The prodigy meant to do more and be more, to cast a shadow so large that those following behind will never be able to leave it. This person can be a hero or they can turn into a villain in the story. This person, can be many people throughout your travels. They could use their standing to help others, or they could use it to push others back, ensure they maintain that limelight and they never have to share it.

The child born and always placed on a pedestal above others, they have an interesting roll. How much is based off of nature vs nurture is questionable. Certain behaviors are very well learned behaviors. For example, if an adult consistently treats others badly, the child that looks up to them is more likely to treat others badly as well, as that is the example that is being set for them. So how can this make the prodigy child the villain? I will explain.

This child is put above all other children, this child can do no wrong. This teaching to this child, tells the other children that they will never be good enough and the child, more then likely, will imitate this behavior that they are exposed to and repeat it. Repeat that they are better then the other children, they are the only one who matters and they are the only ones allowed to be successful. This, ultimately, turns them into the bully, the protagonist, the villain. Depending on how much is handed to this child, as they grow up, they may never understand the concept of failure, or picking yourself back up and never giving up. They never have to, they are the prodigy and they learn to value themselves over all others.

Place this child over the child from our earlier story. The one who was always told they would never succeed, they would never amount to anything and they would never go anywhere in their life. What would that do? It would add an enormous amount of more negativity against this child. It would add to the amount negativity received by this child. This could be the ultimate pressure that could send the child from becoming a hero to becoming a forever victim.

This prodigy will then continue through life, in one of two ways. If they have learned they are better then everyone else, they will continue this pattern of behaviors to others throughout their life. They will always feel better then everyone else and that others are below them and they will not be afraid to tell them or treat them as such. This is what will define them as a villain in our times. Or, they could go another direction. They could see that maybe they were given so much more and they should help others discover their own value and help them up and help them along their path and be a hero themselves for the support they could offer to others.

This is all a choice, as is in role one can take on in life. We are just adding a 3rd level, we are no longer just looking at a Hero and a Victim, we are looking at the potential Villain that could make themselves the key turning point in someone else’s life, by truly deciding what is of more value to them, themselves or the world around them.

Do you see yourself in any of these definitions? Chances are you fit into at least one, possibly more then one depending on the people you are around. There is also a chance that if you or someone you know fall underneath a Villain or Victim, it may not be apparent to that person has they have yet to become accountable to themselves.

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A Child’s Dream

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February 18, 2020

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When a child is born, their dreams are limitless. Nothing is impossible is to them. They have hope, innocents, curiosity and a way to look at the world that we often loose as we progress through life. They do not know what they want to be when they grow up or how they want their lives to be each day. They just want their simple needs met and to be happy and explore.

The immediate family raising the child is the first to start placing limits on the imagination of the child. Then those around the child as they are growing up add more and more limitations. These become greater and greater as the child grows and develops how the child will look at the world.

A child once had a dream of everything they could be and even at a young age, had a plan on how to achieve it. These things would not come to fruition for this child right away. This child’s dreams were being destroyed daily. They were not the dreams of their family, nor did they match the life the family had planned for everyone. Being one child of many, being different was not an option. But also being properly cared for was not either.

This child was told almost daily that they would never be anything in life, their dreams were impossible and to stop fighting it and just give up.

This child made the choice to keep pushing forward, even with those of high influence saying not to. One injury after another, one fall after another. Never looked at by a doctor, not knowing why these injuries kept occurring. It wasn’t a dream of the families, so there was no priority to help this child learn to adjust. Instead, the child fought and fought to move forward, falling down but always getting back up.

From the young age of 7 years old, this child learned that the ones that were supposed to be there for them, were only worried about themselves and how things made them look and how the time impacted them. There were too many other children, following the dreams of the parents, this child was not a priority. This child was forced to try to be like everyone else, not matter how unhappy they were being like everyone else.

As this child grew older, they found ways to be involved with what made them happy. They would babysit to earn money to pay for the things they needed when they were told they were too much money. This child, by the age of a teenager, had figured out how to budget what little money they had to be able to find ways to be happy, no matter how much pain the falls put this child in, they never gave up.

During this time, this child heard more and more each day about how much time they were wasting, how worthless they were and how none of this was going to help them when they were older. They were never going to amount to anything or become anyone at all by continuing to live their life they way they were.

The pain was worth the enjoyment to this child. Because of the lack of care this child received, they always thought the constant injuries, bruising, swelling and many other things causing the pain, were just a part of what they needed to go through to be happy and do the things they loved.

A child’s dream is always within them, some of them have them taken away to be buried deep, in our story, we are exploring what a child can do when they never forget their dreams. This only accounts for a short bit of all that we will explore in variation to how someone can become a victim or a hero of their own story.

What was your dream as a child? Is it something you have forgotten or something you found a way to achieve?

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