Closure?
The real secret to getting closure is not what you think.
In fact,
there’s no secret…at all…
:) :
It’s interesting to think about what closure really is. Is it an end? A beginning? A time to move on? It’s different for everyone, I suppose. Closure can be a good thing or a bad thing. It can be a relief, or it can be devastating. It’s a strange concept, but one that we all experience at some point in our lives.
There is a certain feeling of finality that accompanies the idea of closure. Whether it’s the final chapter of a novel, the end of a relationship, or the termination of a job, we all know what it means: This is it. This is the end. We’ll never have to think or talk about this again.
Sometimes, you may feel like you’re going through the motions, but most times, that’s all you can do. To me, closure feels like a luxury you can’t afford at the moment.
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At times, you may be wondering how the people who loved you once are doing so good with others. Is there anything you didn’t say or do that made things even worse? Anything you could’ve said or done to change the outcome of that relationship/ friendship..? Unfortunately, there’s not much that can be done to repair a broken heart.
You want some definitive answers about what went wrong- but most of the time, getting these answers is impossible.
If there is any time to be your main concern it would be this time!
When someone that you truly love and who supposedly loves you, leaves you regardless of the reason, situation, and conditions- you make it all about you. And yes, it should be about you! (just differently)
Focus on yourself, be there for yourself, think about yourself, and feel the pain for yourself … if there is any time to be your main concern it would be this time. You loved from the heart and it was genuine, but you need to slowly understand that this person/ situation is gone and it’s you in your life for yourself once again and you are worthy and capable alone.
There’s no perfect way to get through it, but you will eventually get there. Getting over someone or something (that doesn’t resonate with you anymore) is a process, but it’s worth it in the end. This is why most people settle for the next best thing: acceptance.
Just because it hurts doesn’t mean it’s the wrong thing. Accept it.
Closure? It isn’t about them. It is about you.
It’s not about waiting for that last goodbye, IT IS the goodbye.
