Colour It Out!
Pick a colour. Any colour. Not the usual reds and greens that you are thinking about, the one that feels like your December.
Instead, think gold because there’s warmth in the air.
Or maybe it’s blue because quiet moments are taking over.
Maybe it’s grey then because, honestly, you just want the world to slow down for a bit.
You might be asking, what does this has to do with anything?
Don’t worry, let me tell you a short story.
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Last weekend, I went to a bridal shower party. You know how these parties don’t joke with their anko, particularly a proper Nigerian party — everyone was rocking the same pink robe, perfectly in sync right? However, I wasn’t wearing one. I was just there, invited by one of the aso-ebi ladies.
While everyone else was laughing, dancing, and connecting, I found myself on the side, scrolling through my phone, feeling a bit out of place. Not sad, I was truly happy for the latest couple, but I was just there– aware about my surroundings. My energy didn’t match the room, and you can feel that. My vibe would definitely feel different if I could grasp it.
But wait, now that I am thinking about it, what colour are you feeling right now? Is it the gold, blue, or grey vibe? Now imagine if a brand tried to show up with that energy, would it feel right, or would it fall flat? Hold onto that thought as you move through your own December moments.
The thing is that people always say: “Show up, no matter what. Be present even when you’re tired, sad, or it’s raining.” And they mean well, trust me they really do. However, they rarely mention this: if you show up drained, unprepared, or half-hearted, it doesn’t just fall flat. It affects you more than anyone else and in the long run, you leave feeling scattered, invisible, or disconnected.
That’s when I realized something, showing up isn’t just about being there; It’s about being present in a way that feels like you. This does not mean you’re trying to match everyone else’s rhythm, nor are you forcing yourself to blend in but at the same time, showing up wrong is worse than not showing up at all.
So, I watched. I watched the colours, the movements, the laughter, and my own quiet corner. And slowly it clicked: showing up well isn’t about perfection or blending in. It’s about showing your own hue — even if it’s small, muted, or out of place. That is why I am here today, bringing this gospel to your ears.
Before you go…
If this made you pause and notice your own December colours, drop a comment about the mood or energy you’ve been carrying lately. Let’s reflect on it together.
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