If We’re Losing Each Other, Tell Me
I’ve been holding this in for a while, but now I need to say it out loud. I can’t help but feel like things have changed between us. It’s as if the hope you once had for us has started to fade. I know this relationship didn’t begin with certainty. We both knew it would be hard — but we tried anyway. We even talked about working through it, about fighting for something better. And for a moment, it felt like we were getting somewhere.
But now… it feels like we’ve slipped back into silence.
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I understand that life gets busy, and I never want to make you feel like you owe me more of your time than you have. But love is about choices, and when days pass with only a few words between us, it’s hard not to feel like I’ve stopped being one of yours. Even when we do talk, it feels… hollow. Like we’re going through the motions, not living in the moments.
I’m not blaming you — I know relationships are heavy. And maybe I’ve been too much. Maybe I care too deeply or ask too many questions that wear you down. But I do it because I believe in us. Because I want this to work. You’ve always been more to me than just a passing feeling, and that’s what makes it so hard to wonder if I’m alone in holding on.
I’m not giving up, and I don’t want you to feel pressured or trapped. I just want you to know how this feels. Maybe we can fix it, maybe we can’t but I can’t keep quiet while my heart breaks in silence.
If this is too much, if I’m too much, or if this relationship is more weight than joy for you, please tell me. Don’t leave me holding onto a future that no longer exists. I want to believe we can still find our way, but I need us to be honest with each other, with ourselves.
I care for you so much, and I always will. But I can’t hold on forever without knowing if you’re holding on too.
