Truth Vs. Shade
What’s the difference between truth vs. shade?
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I’ve noticed that many of the narcissists that used to gaslight me would call the truth, shade. I remember when someone that would bully me would say I was throwing shade when reminding them of what they used to do to me and say to me. Many of those that live in lies and “forget” the abuse and harassment they’ve done to others, tend to get angry and at times violent when they are met with the truth. Take my father for example, he wanted to end our lives because we were a financial burden to him but if we ever spoke about what he was trying to do to us, he would get angry and find ways to turn us against each other instead of redirecting our anger to the man that tried to take our lives. I got into the most trouble for constantly telling him what he was doing and saying to us until eventually my siblings started protecting him and yelling at me. I have no family which is why I prefer to call them relatives because a true family wouldn’t have allowed a six year old, the youngest, to almost die and then yell at said six year old for standing up for themselves. The truth is that shade is what people that are unable to take accountability for their actions will call the truth to make themselves feel comfortable. They also use shade because they refuse to say it’s the truth, mainly because they have already fed themselves with lies. It has become the norm for many people to create a second word for what they are doing instead of saying it’s what they’re doing because if they confessed that it was the first word, the one that makes them uncomfortable, then they would lose their reputation and everyone that was supporting them. There is no truth vs. shade because the shade is the truth but saying it’s the truth would hurt their ego more than anything. I know this because when I was being gaslit, they would do anything to make me say it wasn’t the truth so they could live in comfort but now I am standing up for myself and speaking my truth and I hope this will inspire anyone that may read this to speak up and start standing up for yourself. Do not ever let anyone gaslight you. Stand strong because you are strong. You are powerful and you will make a change in this world.
