When You Mean It

What you mean is louder than what you say

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Over the years, I’ve realized that people can feel whether you mean it. Not just hear it. Feel it.

The way you say, “How was your day?” and want to listen to the answer. The way you remember how someone likes their coffee with too much sugar and not enough milk. Getting your phone and turning it face down because the person in front of you means much more than a call that he might get.

Intent is a discreet and handsome thing. It never shouts or begs attention. It just leaks through: In a pause between words or eye contact held a mere second too long or even willingness to stay present when just drifting away would do.

I’m not interested in gestures used just to be seen. I’m interested in meaning them. I’m interested in doing the little things because they feel right, not because they will be noticed.

Here’s the truth: it’s never the big things that make a moment unforgettable. It’s about the little things with great weight.

When you mean it, the people know.
When you do not, they know that, as well.