If She Considers You as a Second Option

When Your Love Feels Unimportant

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There is a painful kind of relationship where someone never really lets you go, but they never truly choose you either.

You are there when they need attention. You are there when they feel lonely. You are there when their first choice is unavailable. But when something better comes along, or when the person they really want finally gives them attention, you suddenly become less important.

That is what it can feel like to be someone's second option.

And sometimes, the hardest part is admitting that you may not be getting the same level of love, effort, or commitment that you are giving.

Being someone's second option doesn't necessarily mean they are deliberately trying to hurt you. Sometimes people are confused about what they want. Sometimes they enjoy your company without wanting a serious relationship. And sometimes, they simply keep you around because they know you will always be available.

Whatever the reason, the result can be emotionally exhausting.

Here are some signs that may indicate you are being treated as an option rather than a priority.

1. She Only Comes Around When She Needs Something