The Black Veil
During Mourning, Women Wear Veils to Cover Their Sorrow. Men’s Faces Are the Veils they Wear, and the Sorrow That Is Forced Behind It. This Is One of the Big Differences Between Men and Women.
Originally published at https://pherothanaton.substack.com.
The Vanishing Tradition of the Funeral Veil
It is less of a common occurrence to see a woman wearing a veil at a funeral now, but in less recent years it was rare not to. The reason would be a move away from formal attire and traditions in America.
Why Men and Women Express Grief Differently
Why was it such a thing at funerals in most societies for women and not men? In cultures all around the world, it has been a staple that men hold their emotions within themselves and are not to show them. In modern pop psychology, it has been pushed on men to show their emotions and not hold them in. This is a female trait and has been pressured onto men in a sort of male feminization.
The Feminist Influence on Western Family Norms
I am about to present a case against certain “staples” in current Western family values and norms. This is not the complete situation, and I will be presenting everything in multiple articles. This is merely one article of many.
There is not a single reason, but multiple reasons for this shift in Western societies, and most of them are linked to each other. The linchpin is feminism. Feminism spreading in Western culture has had many immediate results, and a few delayed.
Single-Parent Households and Their Effects on Children
One of the first things that feminism affected was the raising divorce numbers. Women were not attached to their husbands with any kind of loyalty. This, in turn, left many households with a single parent. Now, that single parent was almost exclusively the mother, because we lived in a society that appreciated women and assumed that they needed to be cared for. This is one of the ideals that feminism has not sought to change for “Equality”, and the reason being that it puts them at a greater advantage.
In these single parent households, the children, both boys and girls, were receiving influence from one parent. There was not a joint parent influence on the kids, and they were missing that masculine influence. Boys and girls both need a strong father in the home and both suffer in their development when missing one or the other parent.
The Role of Fathers in Raising Boys and Girls
Boys are taught how to be men. How to be strong leaders for their families and societies. How to face consequences and accept responsibility. Girls are taught how to be daughters, which prepares them to be wives. How to distinguish between male flattery and compliment, how to stand strong against advances that would assault their womanhood. Most importantly, how to defend the house and the ideals set by the father against corruption.
The Consequences of Missing Parental Influence
The question of which parent is most important is a vain one, which cannot be explained or argued to any realistic end. Both are equally important and are greatly missed in a child’s upbringing. Different scenarios and factors may make missing a parent in a certain stage of a child’s life easier, but there is no acceptable loss of a parent.
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What are some of the negatives of only having one of the two parents? Well, we don’t really have too much data when it comes to a single father, but we have tons when it comes to a single mother. Unfortunately, this greatly reflects society. Where a single father will make decisions, or so it would seem, based on his own vision of right or wrong, with the society being far less of an influence on those decisions.
What does this say? Well, it implies that a single mother in a strong society with high standards might raise the kids to reflect the society, but a mother in a society strongly influenced by immorality and feministic ideals will more likely reflect those traits.
Feminism and the Shaping of Male Intolerance
This would reflect how our society has weaker men, both mentally and emotionally. It would also explain why the West is, more and more, becoming more intolerant of conflicting ideas. When children are raised in a house where the mother has no one to challenge her decisions and opinions, which often might be good, there will be a dictatorship of ideology. That kind of condition creates a vacuum of ideas that oppose anything that counters the accepted ideas and even train the children, and the mother, to react with hostility to those opposing ideas.
This intolerance to opposition is a feministic quality. Men usually will bump heads on ideas and call names, shout, fight, even physically, over differing opinions, but there is a mutual respect for the other person. Men under the feministic upbringing are far more intolerant of opposing ideas and will not directly fight for or against them. If they feel like they outnumber the opposing force, they might fight or argue if they feel like they can physically beat the other side or shout over their opinion being shared.
Men also will emit their emotions far more when feminized. Crying, shouting, attacking those weaker, and a general instability will be far more common in these men. Men raised by men are taught never to attack women, children, or those generally weaker than them. It is driven to such an extent that men will cast other men out of social circles for being weak. Other than abusive men, we are also seeing a rise in men who are trying to be like the older more masculine men, but who were raised by feministic women. Those men are insisting that they can and should attack women who attack them, threaten them, or even only throw words against them.
Much like an animal that was raised in captivity doesn’t understand many of the animal’s natural societal norms that are taught by the herd, pack, flock, etc., these men are trying to reflect what they think men would do. This is creating chaos. The reaction from women will be equally, if not more, reactionary and the whole thing will get out of hand very quickly.
The Emotional and Behavioral Effects on Women
Now, I haven’t even touched the effect that single mothers have had on girls. They are becoming more sexually indiscriminate. They seek a father-type approval and a strong father-type figure in their lives. Without a father to guide them on what to look for and where to look for it, they have become disarrayed and this is made worse in the feministic society that we’ve become more and more over the years.
This behavior has caused them to date, break up, and get physical far more, far earlier, and far more often. These experiences being introduced to girls when they should not have any of these encounters in their lives, a tough father with a shotgun was a common image to young masculinised men.
The reaction to this being in young women’s lives has made it where they are emotionally imbalanced and have become far more protective of themselves, less trusting, and weighed down with much more baggage than they should ever have.
Then, in the overly feminized society that we are in, they are told that it is not their fault but the “patriarchy”. This figment of feminist imagination says that they are not responsible for any of their decisions, but this idea that oppresses them. Most women could not tell you exactly what the idea of the “patriarchy” is, and it doesn’t make any sense whether they can or not.
The Black Veil and Gendered Emotional Expression
In finishing, why the black veil? Men are supposed to be strong and control their emotions with a stern face to loss, the unknown, and adversity. Women are supposed to be able to show their true emotions while being able to keep their dignity and grace. The emotional state of the sexes in the West is beyond turmoil and to the point of existential disaster. I’ve avoided talking about the spiritual aspect in this article for the sake of brevity, but it is very much an aspect in the situation.
Originally published at https://pherothanaton.substack.com.
