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9th February 2026
Men, we need to talk…
Some of you will read this post and say “but not all men.” Listen! That retort isn’t cute. It makes you seem defensive. It makes you seem suspect.
Of course, it’s not all men, but it’s enough men. Enough men who have made women feel uncomfortable and unsafe. Statements like “not all men” also make women feel unheard.
Men:
Don’t rush to claim your apparent innocence.
Rush to teach your fellow men to be better.
Don’t be offended because women generalise their perception of men based on previous experiences.
Be offended by the men who are giving you a bad reputation.
Stats show it’s not all men but a lot of men
Let’s take a look at some statistics on sexual assault and rape…
1 in 4 women have been raped or sexually assaulted since the age of 16
1 in 6 children have been sexually abused
1 in 18 men have been raped or sexually assaulted since the age of 16
There are some men who will read those statistics, and their only takeaway will be essentially, “men too.” You’re not wrong; men experience sexual assault too.
