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When Affair Pain Explodes: You Can’t Make This Stuff Up
Things Can Get Out Of Hand Quickly
In dealing with infidelity, I encounter situations so extreme that sometimes all I can say is, “You can’t make this stuff up.”
Recently, I came across an article about a woman in England who became so enraged after her ex-husband married her former best friend that she was eventually convicted after an arson attack and allegations that she had attempted to hire people to kill him.
The details are shocking. They are also a sobering reminder of something I have seen repeatedly in working with couples affected by infidelity: affairs are serious business.
They are not simply about sex.
They are not simply about getting caught.
And they are certainly not simply about deciding whether to stay married or get divorced.
An affair unleashes an enormous amount of anger, grief, humiliation, jealousy, fear, rejection, and betrayal. When those emotions are left unaddressed, they can take people places they never imagined they would go.
When Betrayal Changes People
One of the disturbing things about infidelity is how quickly it can change the way people see one another.
