How can I make her squirt?
When I’m asked this question my answer to this is always you cannot make a woman squirt. She can do it all by herself to be honest. There are definitely some techniques which might help but the main thing is how open and safe the woman is feeling at the moment for her to truly let go. You can jack hammer your finger in her delicate folds and leave her bruised and sore for days just for some tiny sprinkles which you forcefully coerced out of her or you can take your time to playfully enjoy together and explore what both of you enjoy most.
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What is sad when it comes to making a woman squirt is that men view it as something they can make a woman do. Like an animal trainer bragging about making a dolphin perform spins and jumps upon his command. That idea itself makes the whole experience devoid of any wonder and pleasure as it is just for ego gratification. You have a sense of pride out of it instead of wonder and gratitude. Women sense it and she feels if she doesn’t perform her partner will be disappointed. This stresses women and takes the joy and pleasure out of the equation. It’s just another chore on her to do list.
Women can have orgasms without squirting and can squirt without orgasming. Women can squirt by clitoral, vaginal or a combination of both stimulations. They can do it alone or with a partner. Once women find out what works best for them to squirt, they know how to get to squirt almost all the time. They can control their ability to squirt also. For example, a woman might feel that she is about to squirt but decides she doesn’t want to do it for reasons as simple as she is not in the mood to fully let go or she doesn’t want a wet patch on the bed. The power and ability to squirt is inherent to women. Of course a partner can surely help us to get there but we can do it on our own during our self-pleasure time.
If you are a woman who has not yet been able to squirt, don’t worry; there’s nothing wrong with you. Explore more about the subject, try out toys during your self-pleasure time or when you are with your partner. The most important thing is to explore what you enjoy.
My advice to men who want to make their partner squirt is also to explore without any pressure to achieve the goal of squirting. She’s not a monkey who can perform tricks at your command. Talk about it in a relaxed space of exploration instead of being goal oriented. Most importantly be playful.
