7 Behaviour Types of Toxic People
7 Behaviour Types of Toxic People
Hello everyone, welcome to the Sesli Fikirler Podcast. I’ve asked you guys if you wanted to listen to more English episodes and you responded with yes. So here we are again with an English episode about toxic people in our lives and how they exhibit their behaviours and finally how we can cope with these people.
To start this episode, first of all, I want you to grasp what toxic means literally. It is poison guys. And for our case, we are talking about poisonous people. Once we are in such an environment, it drags us deeper and deeper into the chronicle of negativity and drains our energy away. Those people who are constantly upset and drag you into the deep and also always talk about how the world is catastrophic all the time can be toxic. They coined the word toxic people to point out that they can also affect your life. Although these types of people cannot harm you directly, keeping in touch with them can harm your psychological well-being. Some toxic people can stay in your life for a short term, and some for a very long while. However, what is more important is that you should not lose your positivity and know how to deal with these people. Here are seven behaviour types to get to know more about toxic people.
One: Manipulation and Control
We cannot say that toxic people are very interested in you or how you feel. The only thing that they desire is to take over your control by manipulating your mind and your emotions. This is how you can be a part of their plans, and goals. They simply take advantage of your kindness and initiate the process of exploiting your feelings. The manipulation that we are talking about can vary in forms: They can provoke you, play the victim, make you feel guilty, and just twist the words that you articulate.
Two: They will not apologize
Toxic people will not accept and embrace their mistakes no matter what. On the very contrary, they will do the best that they can just to make YOU feel guilty. Trying to cope with this is easier said than done. Since toxic people will not accept their mistakes, furthermore, they will be eager to create some brand new argument topics. Tough, it is crystal clear that you have all the right to say that you are right on that topic. If you are wondering why the heck they do not know that they are wrong, it is because they feel threatened about their self-confidence if they apologize, it is unbearable to feel the shame. And they are not eager to take responsibility for their actions, and they favor anger over positive feelings.
Three: They reflect their own feelings on you
Toxic people share all of their negative feelings with you. In addition, when you are hanging outside anywhere, they can feel offended by somebody else’s behaviour or they can tell you that the others are talking about you or laughing at you to include you in their shame. Thus, they lead you to feel disturbed, too.
Four: First they create a negative situation, and they pretend as if nothing happened
When you get sick of the behaviours of toxic people, you may want to talk about it with them. Yet, the only answer that you will get will probably be nothing. Because there is no discernible reason, that is no real situation. They only try to create a negative situation and drain your energy. And because you do not want to make a scene you will keep doing what you always do.
Five: They complain all the time
It is very likely to have a bad day now and then. And what we need the most in these times is the support of our loved ones. But, if this turns into a habit, then it will be a toxic behaviour. Calling someone and complaining about how your day went so badly, how your boss talked to you, and crying can make that person go crazy. And what you need to do in this case is to determine your boundaries and not spend time with that toxic person. Plus, you can get in touch with positive people to boost up your energy.
Six: They will not accept the answer “no”
Toxic people will not just accept the answer “no”. When you reject them, they start manipulating you just to achieve what they demand. It is simply because they cannot understand that other people have boundaries and they will not respect that fact. Saying no is pretty normal, tough. You might have very bad anxiety that day at the company because you could not deliver your task before the deadline, or you might argue with your spouse. Or you might just not feel like going outside, you only want to take a rest and do nothing. You must not feel ashamed or guilty for saying no. Well, I want to talk about my experience with this issue. I was not a person who could say no to almost anyone. And, believe me, this can cost you a lifetime really. Because you can end up being a people pleaser. So it is better to say no when you need to.
Seven: Your accomplishments become a torture for them
It is very likely that have met some people who sulk for our accomplishments. Even, these people can be among our close friends. You share your excitement with them and you expect them to be happy with you too but the response is a very cold smile on their faces. So a toxic friend is spotted. What you need to do in this case is to diminish your communication with them to the deepest level no matter who they are even if it is family or a friend. Do not let these negative people affect your life, or your decisions. Take it from an experienced person who has gone through this many times. Remember that you are the only one that matters the most. You are worth everything good.
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