Safety First: Navigating the Sugar Bowl Safely
Dating in the Sugar Bowl can be fun and exciting, but like any online dating experience you must use basic safety to make sure that you are protected and safe at all times. Sometimes it is easy to get caught up in the chatting, romance, and excitement and then it feels like you know the person on the other end of the computer or phone. Once you feel familiar with that person it is easy to be lulled into a sense of security. However, we do hear stories on the news about people luring others into dangerous situations. Before you jump into your Sugar Arrangement, follow these pointers to make sure that you have a sweet experience with your POT Sugar Daddy.
Do Your Homework
Before giving out personal information to your POT SD, get his personal info so you can look him up online. Many states have criminal registries and arrest records. This can also tell you more about who he is as a person!
Trust Your Instincts
We all have gut instincts for sticky situations and tricky people — make sure you listen to yours. You’re naturally pre-programmed to recognize when things don’t feel right (ever had the hair on the back of your neck stand up?) but we often think that the man in question will be angry or frustrated with you if you act on your feelings. However, a true gentleman, a REAL SD (like the kind you actually want to spend your time with) won’t be upset, he’ll be proud of you for using your smarts. Worry less about making someone else feel bad and more about making sure you’re safe! This also goes for online meetings. If someone you are talking with gives you a weird or bad vibe, don’t discount those feelings or convince yourself you are being silly or paranoid (even if he has a lot to offer and seems like a great match)! If someone gives you a strange gut feeling online, chances are it will be worse in person. Make it a rule that anyone who gives you bad vibes gets an automatic no.
Have Solid Boundaries
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Boundaries are rules that we set for our relationships- things that we will and won’t tolerate, things that ensure our safety, our health, that ensure we’re respected and happy. While these rules involve other people because relationships aren’t one sided, ultimately it’s up to you as a SB to follow the boundaries and follow through when the other person does not. If you’re being pressured into doing anything that makes you uncomfortable or unsafe or are being pushed to meet before you are ready or in a place that doesn’t seem smart, it is up to you to say no. If he doesn’t respect your boundaries, he doesn’t respect you and that should disqualify him from being in your life automatically. Any SD who is worthy will show you respect and want you to feel safe.
Practice Awareness
This probably seems obvious, but when you go to meet your POT SD (or a new SD you’ve been dating) pay attention to your surroundings. Provide your own transportation and meet in a public place. Read the street signs along the way and look at the people around you. Make a reference point of how far you are from landmarks. Don’t get caught in a situation where you need to call for help and you have no idea where you are. While out, don’t put yourself at risk by having too many drinks or leaving them unattended. Make sure this is a person you can trust before you let your guard down around him. Ask the questions you have in your head and don’t be shy. A true SD will admire your confidence as a Sugar Baby and that you’re taking care of your own needs — he won’t be put off by your strength.
To Wrap Up:
- If it’s your first time meeting, insist on a public place. Getting into a car (however nice it might be) with a new SD isn’t a safe choice.
- Don’t give out your home address to any stranger, SD or not. Meet him where you arranged to meet instead of having him pick you up at home.
- Always let a few friends know where you’re going to be, how long you’re going to be gone, and a way to reach you. Have a safe word so if you call and say it, your friends know how to jump into action.
- Make sure to trust your gut. If something seems sketchy, it probably is. If an SD gets upset, he’s showing his true colors (or flavor, shall we say… salt!) and you’re saving yourself grief down the road!
Now, having said all that, an arrangement in the Sugar Bowl is one of the most rewarding and fun dating experiences a girl can have! Spending some extra time up front to ensure your safety and listening to your gut can help you be and feel safe and secure so that when you find a great SD you can enjoy him!
