Asking The Right Questions.. To Solve Everyday Problems
I woke up my mind racing, my body sore, my core telling me i need to so something. I had so many things going on that needed to be addressed i had to so many options, it was hard to choose what to stick to. I found this practice to be so grounding into what i want in my life. I sat with myself quietly for a good few mins.. to bring everything that has been swirling to the surface. The very first decision i made was to say YES, that i was going to solve this problem of too many problems and options. Taking back my own power to letting go of anything that doesn’t fit what i want in my life.
I didn’t want to take in anymore more information. So, With the information i had, i could form a list of all the things on my mind small and big..
Everything..
I decided to prioritize them into a sustainable format which was important to me. The question i realized i needed to ask was, “What is important to me right now?” not tomorrow, not later but RIGHT NOW.
I had free time a time to work on things that all needed my attention. I prioritized them like this based on my emotions and on logic because this is how i find balance when i make decision.
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Purpose: Gather all the information you have.
First List: What do i want for myself for tomorrow?
Values:
- family
- calm
- happiness
Goals:
Is it sustainable?
What does my selfcare look like? Truly to relax my mind and body.
Every question after i would, i would refer to this list to narrow down my second list for what is best for me!
Then, I wrote down everything that was on my mind.. every single thought…
Then I prioritized them based on what’s important to me right this moment.. right now ..
Second List consisted of:
My feelings
My body’s state
Other questions that popped up
All the things that kept pulling my attention (yes, even YouTube, or Social Media videos, Articles.) They all pull attention.
I marked each one with a check mark I thought was most important to me right now.
Then with what i had left on this list to me I sort of started a mental throwing away..
If it would just not align with my values of sustainability and moving forward. I would cross it off as if i was throwing it in the trash. Then I asked myself these questions… “How does it make me feel thinking about some of these?” If it wasn’t positive I threw that away too.. straight off the page.. it’s gotta go!
Out of the top 4 i had left.. i thought, If i could just do one thing to start.. “what can I do in this moment right now?”
And I do it… And i kept my list.. because the most important thing is doing the action with less clutter.. even if it’s small and applies to later on.
Examples: Of tiny Yes..
- It could be setting up a space in your room … That is only for working on whatever it is you need to get done.
- Cleaning up the area would spend the most time in.
The SMALL things matter!
Mine turned out to be (SELF CARE FIRST) to keep thoughts at minimum
- It could be mindful meditation to find your base level of clam
- It could be sitting quietly to process emotions
- It could be listening to music as you brush your teeth to get you hyped for the day
I realized that what was going on from my inner discord was self sabotage. I was never going to find the answers for all the information before i made a decision…and doing nothing was going to build thoughts of rumination and self-doubt. Where this effected the future where this pattern would repeat over and over. This is how we can say “Yes” to making a decision or even many that even if we don’t know the outcome we can start with what we know that matches our values to move forward. To build the thought patterns and the rituals that are truly aligned with our own self. Small steps forward are still steps in the right direction. We cannot always control an outcome but what we can do is have control over today by using our actions and thoughts to start to build for a better tomorrow and for the better cycles to come. Finding balance starts with us! It takes giving it time and accepting imperfection. Which is something i that has been near an dear to my heart lately.
