Men’s rights vs men’s issues
Men’s Rights…
After I had parted ways with feminism, I was seeking a movement… a group… a sense of belonging. I wanted a group of people I could vent to about things I viewed as double standards or unfair, and at the very least, someone who would understand what I was talking about. I had come across the term “men’s rights” and thought of it as a joke. I thought to myself, What rights do women have that we don’t? To this day, I still agree with that thought.
When I think of rights, I think of legal frameworks that control what you are and are not allowed to do. I can’t think of any real laws that confine or oppress men in general. Alimony applies to married men, and child custody applies to men who have kids — not all men. To me, something is a right when it applies to everybody, regardless of their situation. I’m not saying these aren’t issues that need to be addressed — but to me, they are exactly that: issues.
This is analogous to feminists complaining about the “pay gap” and screaming, MY RIGHTS HAVE BEEN VIOLATED! This game works for feminists because people instinctively listen to women when they are upset. People do not listen to men when they are upset — they do the opposite. If the whole men’s rights crowd wants people to start taking their issues seriously, they could start by changing the name. Men’s Issues? I don’t think we should want a name that makes us look bitchy — but a name that inspires questioning. I would even be okay with anti-feminism, because let’s be real — if feminism hadn’t overstepped its bounds, men’s rights wouldn’t even be a thing.
The Problem with Childish Men
The concept of childish men brings me to my next point about what’s harming the men’s rights movement. We need to find a way to downplay all these loud men going around online, systematically venting in everybody’s comment sections, cussing at them, calling them names, and overall acting childish. Sadly, that’s what the average person in America seems to think of when they hear the term “men’s rights”, and to an extent, they have a point.
Men need a private place to vent — the key word being private. Sounding like a wannabe Limp Bizkit member just makes the movement seem less serious. Going around online calling everybody incels while bragging about being the alpha male makes you sound petty and unimportant. True alpha men don’t have time for that sort of behavior. Every man acting like that is a win for the feminist ideology.
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Feminism is Currently Winning
Feminism is currently winning the battle because their main weapon is to propagate a victim narrative and demand empathy. That works great for women — but it works awful for men. There’s a reason women can cry their way out of speeding tickets, but it doesn’t work for men.
Men need to fight with logic and philosophy. That’s where feminism is weak. They go around crying about how unfair life is for them while they are getting offers for C-suite jobs, collecting alimony, and still pushing traditional expectations on men. It’s only a matter of time before more people realize there is no logical backbone to their movement.
It’s Not About Hating Women
Finally, although there are real differences between men and women, there is no need to be hateful toward women. I try very hard when writing my articles to make it clear that I am against feminism, not women. Not all women are feminists, and not all feminists are women. There are plenty of traditional women who despise feminism, and there are men who couldn’t really win at anything else in life, so they joined the feminist cause for female attention.
Another reason we should not alienate women is because they aren’t the problem — society is. I know every MGTOW member is about to mail me some death threats, but I think I have a point here. The reason women can be awful is because mainstream society encourages it, and the legal frameworks allow it.
Hating women in general alienates the traditional women who might otherwise oppose feminism and the double standards it has created. I guess, personally, I just don’t see women as the problem — I see feminism as the problem.
We need to stay calm, confident, and use logic and philosophy to play to our strengths.
