Anger can be hard, let me try to help you with these tips!

Sometimes controlling your anger, especially when put on the spot, can be very difficult. As someone who’s struggled with anger management, I’ve learned some valuable lessons over the course of me time, and I want to be able to help anyone else who might be struggling too.

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Disclaimer: I am not a professional, and these are not professional tips. These are just things I’ve learned and might not help you, it just depends on how your anger works, and what works best for you.

1. If you feel yourself getting angry, step away. I know sometimes it might be hard if you are having a fight with someone and you just have to be right. It’s okay, I’ve felt that too. Sometimes the best thing to do though, is to step away, talk to someone, and come back when you are calm and can clearly express your feelings, without hurting anyone else’s
2. I know it sounds cheesy, but counting to ten really works. If it doesn't for you, though, try doing something you enjoy, or a physical activity. Some examples of things you can do to help yourself calm down include: going for a walk, riding a bike, running, working out, coloring, reading, watching a show, or talking with a friend about something you both enjoy. If none of these work, I suggest getting help from someone you know and trust with the situation.
3. Don’t engage. If you are starting in a fight with someone, just walk away. Don’t put yourself in a situation where you will do something you will regret later. It’s not worth it just to be right, prove a point, get revenge, or whatever you are in the fight about.
4. Don’t put yourself in situations where you know you will get angry. If you know talking to your Christian friend about your Bar Mitzvah will cause a fight over religions, then don’t talk about it. Talk about it with another Jewish friend, or someone you know will be accepting of your religion. The same goes for any other situation.
5. Don’t stress the small stuff. Sometimes fights aren't worth it. If your friend thinks that the answer is 4 but you think the answer is 5, don’t argue with them. It’s not worth it to get into a fight with your best friend about a silly little math problem. (no offence to math though, I love math and it is a very useful subject).

I hope these tips can help you with your anger, or help you help your friend or family member with their anger. Again, I can;t stress it enough, I am not a professional, and these tips are not going to help everybody. These are just some things that help me but that does not guarantee that it will help you.