The wedding plus 1 you didn’t know you needed
Going to a wedding is a very intimate experience (more on this later). I’ve learned over the years that getting invited is often an honor — a couple is inviting you into their love story and want to share with you. I don’t take weddings as lightly as I used to.
I have wedding pictures from my friend & family weddings and from my ex’s friends and family weddings and I have to crop him out. I don’t have ill will but that was a past life where it would no longer make sense to display a photo with him in my home — no matter how beautiful my dress or outfit is. There are also so many memories at these weddings, some marriages lasted and some didn’t. I’ve even been invited by guy friends to attend weddings as their plus 1 where I politely declined because I’m not going to get all dressed up to meet strangers (I like strangers but not in this type of setting). Weird date. I’m also not too keen on crashing weddings.
Anyway, if you don’t have a guy to bring to your wedding and maybe your best girlfriend is busy, bring your MOM.
Especially if you have a mom like mine — gorgeous, social and a life of the party.
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This works in a few ways:
- The two weddings my mom came to as my plus 1 were to Paris, France and Oaxaca, Mexico, which could be turned into mini vacations
- We flew first class and that’s better than even the thought of going with a guy in economy…
- She had met both of my friends at least once before and knew a few people attending the Paris wedding so technically she wasn’t a stranger
- My mom is very social so she made friends for the night and talked to a lot people. In contrast, I had the burden of facilitating a lot of social interaction in my last relationships which is too much extra work — draining my social battery.
- She’s beautiful and looks good in everything. Real arm candy. She loves taking photos.
- When I wanted to head back to the hotel and get rest, she pushed me to dance it out until the end of the night
- Your mom is eternal: unlike a boyfriend or friend, there’s no breaking up. No cropping people out years later and just good memories
- We have similar styles and while we didn’t plan, our outfits happen to match. Feels much more natural that way.
- Unconditional love — moms love us and I know mine is so proud to be with me for these events. She enjoyed herself for each wedding and did a lot bragging. It was a good excuse to travel.
- Its uncomplicated
Check out some pics from our wedding shenanigans:
Paris
Mexico
