Embracing Panromantic
Open Heart
Yesterday I wrote about the five love languages, in how impactful each expression of love allowed me to learn how to communicate with people’s dynamics.
All these insights led me to a bigger realization: how love truly doesn’t play to the standards nor care about what our labels in day to day conversations with one another. Love Truly Is.
I eventually embraced the term Panromantic in my expression not only with other people yet also with the planet, while still upkeeping with my philosophy of labels, I organize my feelings and finding to be bring my romantic approach to the best of my abilities to all living things regardless of gender expression. It felt right because I was opening my heart to the person, not their category. At the same time I realized I didn’t want to limit my affection to just one person at a time. I decided chose to live in a consciously non-monogamous way, where honest communication replaces any notion of “one right relationship.” For there is more one way to show love.
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Each connection is different yet extremely genuine to each person. For example, someone love language might be quality time, while another is physical touch, and at even a third is words of affirmation. I learned to rotate my own expressions of love accordingly by having a open heart, being myself so each person in my life felt cherished in the way that spoke to them uniquely. It’s important to say: none of this feels like a lesser way of loving. In fact, it felt like honoring the true capacity of having open relationships with the entire world. Where I can simply step into love rather than fall into it.
My Credo: Love Does Not Discriminate.
Being “pure love” means honoring all the unique ways people feel loved and want to give love. It means sitting in silence with someone when that quiet presence is what they need, or carrying a glass of water to a sick friend when words fall short. It means remembering that their preferred love language might not be mines— and that’s beautiful man, growing together is a treat. When I say “I love you” to someone now, it’s not putting their connection or them in a box — it’s simply me telling them. “I see you, I care about, I adore, I cherish you, I lavish in your presence, I am enamored by you, and I want to speak in the way that makes them feel this endless butterfly effect.
If there’s a takeaway here out of blog today, its this
Find way to limit assumption, each person worthy to feels to be loved as you do, this world is filled sensual loving energy that embraces us all. Each person met is curious about you as well, its all love — be curious about how others experience that magic.
- Ask those you care as well as those yet not known about what makes them feel cherished, listen closely to their answer. Observe how they naturally show affection to you and others — that will give you clues how they also enjoy receiving .
- Do your best to meet them in that language, even if it feels unfamiliar at first. Maybe it means planning a small surprise, offering a quiet shoulder, or sharing a heartfelt compliment. Remember, the heart knows no single tongue; its many dialects that makes unique language incredibly rich.
- Ask people you meet in your life: “What does love mean to them?” and add their response to your collection of what it can mean :)
