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There are many Family System Roles. Identifying & Naming an IP (InnerPersona) is first on the list for defining their roles. My first acknowleged IP, Defensive, came on hard and fast. I fought him for years, refusing to honor him. But then, I got interested in what his role entailed, and the methods he used to maintain it. Over time, I learned to stay curious longer and follow Defensive into the InnerRealm where he networked with other IPs, notably SymptomBearer and PeoplePlease. Whereas Defensive has the pleasure of protective tactics, Symptom Bearer endlessly carries nameless weight, shuffling through Shame and other toxic ForceFields, and PeoplePlease devotes himself to perfecting masks.
I connected with colleagues Mitch, Tim, Sheri, and Wilson:
The irreconcilable fusion of pain and love alters reality so that a child’s perceptions are no longer their own.
The nervous system does not merely flip-flop between being stressed and calm, like turning a light switch on and off. It moves through different states of response.
We find ourselves caught in a painful paradox of yearning for connection while fearing the very intimacy that could make it possible.
After I identified obvious patterns, I assumed the work would become easier. It didn’t. What surfaced next wasn’t psychological noise, but spiritual…
