The Secret to 25 Years of Marriage
In an anniversary function of a couple. They were completing 25 years together. The bride and groom both looked beautiful. They were catching everyone’s eye. During the meal, someone asked the lady secret of being together and the lady replied-
He don’t keep me happy!
Everyone was stunned to hear that; except her husband as he had known her since 25 years; but the lady said in fact it’s not even his responsibility to make me happy.
Being happy is my responsibility and not his business.
Her words, though surprising, sparked a profound reflection on a crucial element often overlooked in relationships: self-love
Self-love is very underrated and misunderstood in today’s era.
The longest time we spend with someone is? It’s not wife or husband or children or parents or colleagues. It is Myself.
We try to find validation from outside all the time, we always seek that some XYZ person will come to us and help out with our life, we are in false hope that someone will come for us maybe due to movies or the illusionary world we are dreaming of.
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But guess what nothing really makes you happy if that someone is you- yourself
Becoming the hero of your own life is the most beautiful thing in this world. Many times it's very tough as we don’t like ourselves, so becoming a hero is too much to expect.
After reading a book, I tried talking with myself in a mirror. It was so uncomfortable for me to even look at myself.
Looking in the mirror, I realized I didn’t like myself. The feeling led me to examine the areas where I’d fallen short. I hadn’t been working out, and my lumpy shoulders bothered me. My office success felt hollow, and my face reflected a deep sadness. I also hadn’t prioritized spirituality, despite knowing its benefits
I realized when I started acting slowly on those things, I felt better, I felt loved, and attended.
A Shlok from Bhagavad Gita 6.06 perfectly encapsulates the path to self-love and a more fulfilling existence
For him who has conquered the mind, the mind is the best of friends; but for one who has failed to do so, his mind will remain the greatest enemy.
Befriending the mind is about being self-compassionate self-aware, acknowledging your thoughts and feelings without judgment, and gently guiding them towards a more positive direction.
Just like treating yourself the way you treat your best friend.
When we prioritize self-care and understanding, we’re better equipped to handle challenges and build stronger relationships, leading to increased confidence and success in external pursuits
Let’s learn to take responsibility for our own happiness, to spread happiness. As its said we cannot love others if we cannot love ourselves.
