The Real Reason Nice Guys Push Themselves Too Hard (Live Coaching Session)

You’re Trying Too Hard

I have a very special one for you today. You are going to witness a one-on-one coaching session with Aaron.

Aaron is somebody who is struggling with being disciplined and with his health issues, among other things. He thinks that putting a lot of pressure on himself is the way forward.

“I’ve seen this with almost every client I’ve ever worked with. What we may call pushing yourself is always there as an idea. It’s always whispering. It’s always claiming credit for whatever you’ve done. We assume it’s cause and effect: that pushing yourself is the reason things get done and that not pushing yourself is the reason things don’t get done. This is a pretty classic human bias: we mistake correlation for cause and effect. We think that because pressure is always there, it must be a causal factor.”

In this session we are going to challenge the idea that putting pressure on yourself is actually helpful. We are going to look at how to motivate yourself without feeling forced.

If you are like many of my clients, you may also think that your motivation to do things is essentially feelings based. It…