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I Yam What I Yam
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When the solar plexus is wounded, the critic is at the wheel. We believe that the only way out of this prison is to do more, be more, achieve more and improve upon ourselves. So many systems and industries thrive off of this prison, because when we feel as if we’re not enough, we’re easy to sell to. When we feel unworthy, we’ll work harder for the same pay. When we feel broken, we’ll follow the experts who claim to know how to fix us. When we feel like we’re too much, we’ll be quiet and let others have power over us. The more prominent this wound is, the easier we are to control.
But the way out of this prison does not require us to improve upon ourselves at all. In fact, what it requires is that we love and accept ourselves as we are. It invites us to love the parts of ourselves that are the hardest to love. It even asks us to accept that there are some things we just can’t accept. This is how we become whole and outgrow the prison walls. The more we accept all of ourselves, the more worthy we become of a life without limitation.
Dr. Erica Matluck
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One of the first phrases I learned in French was ´ je suis comme ça ´. I gradually understood that it meant that it’s not up for revision and it’s not going to change, with the implication that ´I accept myself completely, as I am’. The associated phrase of ´c’est…
