Untangled from Entanglements!!
I initially thought I’d start this note by writing that "this was a difficult one to write" however, to my surprise it wasn’t. I think I’m getting a hang of this 'healthy boundaries thing' on lockdown as writing and even saying these things out loud is way easier than I thought it would be.
Not because I’m perfect but because I have spent time and years practicing the art of 'actively listening to my core’. I have decided to cut off every entanglement with the past or even the need to always wanna know the future.
In the process of learning to relinquish control of always wanting to know or fix everything. The following statements below are pledges to myself:
-I will not be entangled any longer this August
-I will not be entangled with anything that doesn’t serve me in a positive way.
-I will not be entangled with thoughts that don’t empower me.
-This August & in the months that follow, I disengage with anything, ideas, notions or ideologies that held any 'part of me' bound.
-I will not be entangled with anxiety.
-I will not be entangled with depressive thoughts.
-I will not be entangled with situationships.
-I will not be entangled with people-pleasing.
-I will not be entangled with the need to constantly shàlàyé (yoruba word for explain) whenever I say No!
-I will not be entangled with trying to make anyone understand my reasons for living life the way I do! For holding strong to my values that keep me grounded, mindful and in a default state of ‘Zen’, ‘Peace’ and ‘Joy’.
-I will not be entangled with negativity (in the form of people,conversations, ideas/things).
-I will not be entangled with procrastination
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-I will not be entangled with unnecessary arguments or external drama.
-This August admidst the multiple things that were in constant competition to fill up my time, one thing I enjoyed the most was the amount of valuable life lessons I was still able to learn. Some of which I sought out to learn /understand and others just came to me in the form of conversations.
A notable one is that "It is never too late to start or go back to doing what you really love to do".
-Finally I will no longer be entangled by anything that holds me back from standing in my truth and doing things that bring me joy, the things I feel the most love 'for myself' when I do them.
-This August; although we are at the end of it, I take the plunge I’ve always wanted and needed to but was too scared to. I’m untangling myself from fear and doubt.
Cheers to being untangled!!!
This sets precedence for the coming months of 2020 & each year after as each day, week and month become a stage for a tree debuting its branches ,one that has unraveled herself from every chain that entangled her roots from thriving & spreading out.
Get ready September, for this shackle-free & powerful Bamboo Tree!!!
- Temi-Dayo F. (Aug 16, 2020)
Photo by Richard Bulton (Unsplash.com)
