Why aren’t we positive?
On the day we are born, our brain is like a white, unrecorded disk, devoid of any thought. Gradually, by seeing objects, people, and events, it begins to record and analyze them at the same time. The result of the recording and analysis that the brain does is what we call experience. The first institution that contributes to this process is the family. Therefore, the role of parents in raising their children and their outlook on life is very vital. It is the parents who instill the first nucleus of positivity or negativity in their child’s mind. When we are children, we like to experience as much as possible and we are not afraid of anything. This empty mind of ours, which is not satisfied with being empty, wants to fill itself with experiences by experiencing everything that will come in handy in the future.
Did you know that we think more than 50,000 times a day and it is estimated that 70 to 80% of these thoughts are negative! Scientists see the cause of these negative thoughts in early humans and cave dwellers who have always been chasing predators and did not have access to a regular daily food diet like we do these days. Others tie this kind of negativity to the overcrowding modern life with all things messed up. From administrative work to tax laws, urban life hazards including traffic, air pollution, crime, and the stress and pressures that come with it. . After all, modern man is a negative human being, while enjoying a much better quality of life in modern life than in the cave age.
Wise parents must consciously expose their children to the different phenomena so that they can learn from life and experience it. Parents who are always on the lookout for their child and forbid him to do anything, even with friends his age, actually weaken their child’s sense of experience and make him timid, which may lead to negative fears in the future.
The main role of the parents starts from the age of two and ends almost at the age of seven when the child goes to school. This is when we enter a new environment. An environment in which new friends and people suddenly appear in the role of classmates and teachers. Thus, the role of society, with its components which include school, friends, books, and the media begins and soon will replace the role of parents as the sole reference for learning about the world.
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Today we live in a time that for many institutions and businesses, scaring people is one of the common ways to sell their goods and services! They do anything they can to make you a customer of their goods or services. An insurance agent will scare you away from a fire in your home. The apartment seller wants to pretend that if you do not have your own home, you have to sleep in a tent!
The mainstream media wants to insinuate to you that you do not have the right life and financial security to use insurance and banking. Movies and TV series only focus on problems, bad events, and more recently on meaningless horror and murder. Even horror books are selling well these days!
This is what you should do: When others see your efforts at work, they may constantly fill your ears with negativity or blame you for every little thing, but to become a successful person, you should not listen to them. Pay attention to the characteristics of successful people ignore the words and criticisms of other people and be busy with your work, after a while, you will see that they stop negating their negativity.
Whatever you believe about everything in life is formed over some time and with a certain way of thinking. Imagine your mind like a big cave full of holes and pits. Your beliefs are truths that are recorded in your mind based on a fixed way of thinking and leave their positive or negative effects in your mind.
Here are your thoughts on life, love, marriage, children, family, political and religious beliefs, and the strange wig your boss wears. There are thousands of these images scattered throughout your mind. Big and small ideas are all created from the calm and successive drops of your thoughts.
Have you realized that when meeting friends and in conferences, parties, and all kinds of gatherings, there is often news of sad and tragic events that have more listeners? As soon as a person talks about an incident, people listen carefully to see how the poor victim has finally succumbed to his or her bitter fate. It is this psyche that causes most of us to become negative and to subconsciously put this negativity at the forefront of our actions in our lives. Here’s the result after a long time: As soon as you are negative, you see an empty half of glass in every offer made to you! Even if a friend offers you a short time trip, the first thought that comes to your mind is that you doubt his intentions!
