This One Essential Element Can Lead To A Lasting Marriage

There are certain times in life when you feel like everything is going ok, and then life decides to pull the rug from underneath you, and you fall flat on your face. The thing you least expected happens, and you are sitting there confused, broken, feeling worthless, and defeated.

September 9, 2020, my whole world came crumbling down around me when I got a letter from my wife of 22 years saying she was leaving me. This little piece of paper had my sentence written on it, and I had no clue I was getting it.

Let me first say that as I am writing this piece, I am living in a basement at a friend’s house. It has been 167 days since I have been home.

During the 167 days I have been away from my wife, I have gone through pretty much all the emotions, heartache, sadness, hopelessness, anger, and resentment.

The multiple questions have swirled through my mind as to why someone I loved so dearly would do such a thing?

Don’t get me wrong; I was going through a deep depression during that time in my life leading up to the letter. I was drinking heavily, I wasn’t the best by any means when it came to helping around the house, and my internal well being was not doing well. I held so much in to protect my family that it was tearing my family apart, and I…