Implementation
108/300. Completion
Ome thing they don’t drag your ears enough to tell you is, it is not enough to read a book(s), watch videos/tutorials, or listen to experts. It is not enough. You know what else you need?
Action! Doing! Implementation!
Nothing works if you don’t implement. An idea is useless without implementation.
It’s not enough to understand humans and their complexities, it’s not enough to understand yourself, it’s not enough to know how to relate with others. You have to actually do it. You have to actually implement.
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You have to actively listen, begin to look at people, actively begin to notice body cues. Actively listen only when people talk. You have to notice how Nimbo expresses discomfort How Ahmed is no longer interested in that conversation. How your team feels let down.
You have to initiate the hard conversation and open up a little too.
I’ve never known how to console a grieving person. It’s probably one of the hardest things to ask of me. I’m not sure how to be there with and for them without seeming overly sensitive or not sensitive, without skirting around them, without knowing to what degree I should or should not say or do stuff. What am I even supposed to say?
It doesn’t matter what is lost. A relative, a pet, an exam. Anything as long as it makes them grieve or hurt.
But you see that is my current goal. To understand how to be there for my people when they grieve, when they hurt. When Kunle/Chiamaka disappoints them and serves them breakfast instead of lunch.
Not just to be a good friend but to be a better person.
Actions speak louder than words and this is my reminder and encouragement to myself and to you you too.
Say less, do more
