How Can We Give More Than We Take?
There was a lonely man who desired a wife. Every day, he prayed. What he desired was a woman who would be his yin to his yang. A caring and loving woman. When he got what he wanted, he never reciprocated what she gave to him.
This is how we are. Never returning the favor to others.
Why do we take and give so little in return? Is it greed? Is it laziness? It’s something.
Taking More Than Giving
Taking without giving could be a learned behavior. We could have learned this habit from mass media and/or the people we associate with like family and friends.
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Or we could have an interior motive of wanting from someone. Humans can be greedy and get comfortable with receiving and the giver may be too giving. Let’s say you wanted something from someone, and they gave it to you. Then, you go back to them again and again. What does this say about you?
There is something we can do to fix this issue.
Being Mindful
I think the answer is simple: being mindful. Being mindful of how much you take from someone. It is fair to give as much as you take. This is for me too because I get carried away with taking without giving.
Especially when I worked at a now closed restaurant. I would get a scoop or two of ice cream or a milkshake at work after my shift ended. In retrospect, I was greedy.
I think we all could apply mindfulness to our lives. Maybe to the people we love the most. Being mindful of not letting greed overcome our spirits. We all have room to grow in this area.
Conclusion
We take without giving. At least most do. Thankfully, you can fix it by being mindful of your actions. The reasons why we take and not give can vary. So, ask yourself, what can I give today?
