The Process

There’s a process toward getting over someone, just like there’s one concerning getting with someone (or, at least, trying to; actually getting with someone is a two-way street, no matter how many articles and sites and books and training programs insist there is a single best way to “get” someone… that’s the next post). What I’m going to attempt to do here is walk you through the simple expedient of getting over someone.

To begin, you might read the first article that I ever wrote for The Good Men Project. I’m still quite proud of it.

https://goodmenproject.com/featured-content/getting-up-over-on-with-it-jvinc/

For whatever reason, it’s once again not providing the preview, but there’s the link if you want to read it.

For this purpose, I’m going to use the last relationship I got out of, just over two months ago. Bear in mind that there were lots of extenuating circumstances thereto, and not every situation is going to be this easy to diagram, but one of the biggest reasons I got past that one so relatively easily was because I remembered some of the lessons I’d learned (mostly the hard way) and then applied them.

So, as I’ve said, I ended a relationship of just short of two years in November. This was not a sudden situation, like someone being unfaithful (though there is suggestive evidence that it was a possibility). It was a long time coming- we’d been fighting for months, hadn’t seen one another in weeks, and hadn’t even talked in a week or more. The situation had broken down so far…