Men & Women
In a relationship, the dynamic roles between a man and a woman can vary, but in most cases, there lies a powerful desire within women to be seen. While men likely don’t have that desire, at least not to the same degree. The feminine identifies with the light and being seen, while the masculine identifies as the observer or witness. Men animate their energy by acting as infatuated witnesses to create a powerful polarity of sexual dynamic attraction with a woman.
When a man learns to appreciate a woman separate from his desires and sexual needs, he feels the power he has that affects how a woman feels about herself and how she flows with the world — her world. All men have the opportunity to see the world, the women in it, and the particular woman in front of them at her unique physical beauty, her feminine essence, and her deep inner beauty.
A woman’s permeating femininity should intoxicate a man. It should awaken his passion and desire to give to her. In turn, she should inspire him to do good in the world, motivating him to want to be a better man.
Every woman wants connection — she wants you to know her pain, regardless of how she appears to you. She wants you to traverse her emotional garden and learn the stories, triumphs, hopes, and desires that make her who she is within. Love is everything to a woman. Money, fame, success, and other superficial concepts pale in comparison if her success in love fails to fulfill her hopes and dreams. If a man doesn’t take an interest in a woman’s journey of the heart, how can he expect to find a place within hers?
A problem that seems to exist only within the US is how men and women behave in artificial ways by lying and game-playing, ultimately making it difficult to connect genuinely and honestly. Not all men and women are like this, but men generally lie and pretend to have serious intentions when they only want sex, while women pretend they don’t want any relationship when they do. Only here in the US do we see a reversal of roles. Men will consider a girl who spent the night with them as an easy lay or a slut, and therefore not girlfriend material. How can he trust her to be loyal if she was that easy? Men have just as many insecurities as women.
What these men fail to realize is that women are tired of being disrespected, objectified, and tossed away. Women are as free as men think they are to date, fuck, and pursue whomever they want, while men fail to see how miraculous it is that a woman was interested in sleeping with them.
In other Western countries, men and women don’t have to lie, cheat, or pretend to be someone else, nor place judgment on their partners. American men need not be turned off by a first impression or what she says. Instead, they should give her more chances to be herself and see if there is a connection. If only he knew how many redos she’s already given him.
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If you’re ready to do many things for the woman you’d like to be with, ask yourself: “Am I doing it out of my good nature and generosity, or am I trying to make her think I’m a nice guy?”
Recognize those ulterior motives. It is noble and recommended to do things for the woman you’d like to attract, but the key is to do it detached from the outcome.
Being charming, giving, and helpful are characteristics one needs to cultivate internally and apply to most people one meets. That’s when you’ll be sincere, and your good intentions will radiate. However, if you’re otherwise not so nice to people but suddenly become the nice guy for her, she will gradually lose attraction as she sees it’s merely a facade.
If you’re desperately clinging to a woman despite her clear signs of no interest, you’ll lose all respect in her eyes, eroding your self-confidence. Despite unrealistic behaviors in movies, if you pursue a chase despite her clear signs of disinterest, you will not win her over. Don’t appear clingy and needy by staying too long at her place, as well as doing things for her that she didn’t ask you to do.
Women need attention and validation from men, so they can feel protected, safe, and secure in a harsh and unforgiving world. Women blindly crave men’s validation as a survival tactic. If a man gives his attention and validation to a woman without wanting anything from her up-front and treats her like a queen, he is setting himself up for disappointment. Instead of valuing his attention, she treats him like a peasant.
Putting a woman on a pedestal is a low-value Beta Male approach and a sure way to not get or keep that desirable woman. Men should never put their women on a pedestal by complimenting them all the time, repeatedly buying them expensive gifts, or never chastising them when they act incorrectly. Women will walk all over men, always asking for more, thinking it is never enough. The result will be a self-entitled, spoiled woman who has lost all respect for her man, is bored, and will end her relationship with him.
Also, if a woman asks her man to change his behavior all the time, to which he complies, she will become bored with him and leave the relationship. Deep down, she likes him the way he is, which is why she is with him. Think about this and you will realize the importance of not being a pushover.
It is difficult for men to understand women because men have rational discussions with women and mistakenly treat them like men. Women are not like men, so stop treating women like men.
Jean Rostand notes, “Do not try to understand women, because only women understand women…”
Oscar Wilde says, “Women exist to be loved, not to be understood.”
