The Hidden Value of a “Boring” Life
Do you ever get the feeling that you're boring compared to other people?
I think that to myself all the time
I remember having a conversation with one of my friends during class. We were in class waiting for our teacher to arrive. The students were already waiting to leave the quiet room full of uniformed chairs and lights.
My friend and I always talked while we waited, expressing our shared hatred of the class, and killing the 10 minutes we had left.
Sometimes they would indirectly mention going to fun and interesting places with friends, like concerts, movies, and events. This is standard conversation skills, providing personal stories and experiences. But in the back of my mind, I constantly kept thinking,
"What am I doing with my life?"
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It wasn't jealousy, but rather a feeling of inadequacy in my own life.
This is called social comparison, more specifically, upward social comparison
Comparing yourself to someone you think is better or superior.
This is quite normal and is another one of our natural human tendencies.
Looking back, I often forget that these events are only a part of their life they've shown.
We've all had "boring" parts of our lives that happen in between each fun experience.
Parts of our lives that you don't typically share during story time. Parts that you could consider "downtime".
While these moments seem unimportant, I like to think that without the "boring" or mundane, the "good" parts lose their meaning and charm.
It was only a change of perspective that made me realize that I didn’t need to worry about anything.
