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Being Convenient — Toxic. How to Get Rid of It.
The desire to be liked by people around us is perfectly normal, as long as it does not turn into a position of being a “convenient person”. We always try to make a good impression, to attract the attention of those who seem interesting to us, but when this desire becomes a need, a person no longer wants to accept the fact that they might not be liked by everyone.
The desire to win approval or receive praise becomes a necessity. But how can a person’s convenience be related to toxicity?
Why does a person become convenient?
Let’s start by understanding who a “convenient person” is. A convenient person is a personality that assumes the position of a victim.
These people tend to have low self-esteem, a predisposition to depression, high anxiety, and weak ability to assert their boundaries. The reasons for convenient behavior often have their roots in childhood — the child’s opinions were ignored, and their desires were suppressed.
They were taught that “if you don’t do what is expected of you, you won’t be loved.” When a child’s behavior stopped being convenient, they would lose attention or even face rejection.
Such a childhood gives rise to a convenient person. They adopt the belief that being accommodating…
