“Just Ignore It…”

Let’s end this gaslighting once and for all.

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Many of you over the years online have probably had to deal with trolls and harassment and bad behavior and all sorts of things, and you’ve often heard, or maybe even said yourself, “just ignore them and they’ll go away.” Often this is thrown out in the midst of an ongoing “flame war” by other observers in the comment thread or forum or whatever.

It’s time to put a solid stop to this argument.

First, no. This is not a thing that happens even frequently enough to be called a rule with many exceptions. If anything it IS the exception.

Second, people who say this are themselves engaging in narcissistic and manipulative behavior.

These are the same motivations I was discussing on a recent livestream discussing narcissists and similar personality types. It’s about control and power and attention on them. The most benign of these types, will typically blow some steam and go, but that’s a minority.