A Different Perspective
I guess you could say, “He liked you, but did not like you enough to even try”. But what if the underlying truth is that he liked you too much that he stopped himself from trying, because in the process trying, they might end up losing you?
Yes, my view might be one of the most common and arguably the dumbest perspective in this whole discourse. But, can you blame me for choosing to believe that, somehow, someday, and somewhere between the spectrum of the longing glances from across the room to the unspoken confessions, both of us will figure everything out and laugh about how scared we were about the actuality of an “us”? And after than, we can laugh how oblivious we were about each other’s feelings (of course, I would not confess how cognizant I really was about us… how i overthought every glance, how those glances pierced through my heart like an arrow, every smile that infected me to do the same, every touch that made my heart and stomach flutter, and every frown my face made every time I expected something to happen, but somehow nothing did).
I could recognize how the first sentence is more self-aware, more realistic, more mature. Life is too short to spend it with someone who you know you will not spend your life with.
But can it not be argued that, indeed, life is too short to not spend it with someone you feel comfortable around, someone who makes you feel hopeful, one who makes you dream of a better tomorrow? Sure, you can find that someone after this person, but life is also too short to deprive yourself of those “what-if’s”. Life is too short and too precious to let one “what-if” linger and not be answered. I guess this is me just wanting to urge those that are reading this to confess their love, show the person they love how much they matter in their life, show them that a “what-if” can be a sure thing, and that they will get your glances, but also your ring.
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Sure, this sounds like I am agreeing with the first point, that that time might not come. But this is not a debate, this is just me pouring out my thoughts into the dustbin of oblivion.
This is not to permit you to be dumb and just wait for something to happen. This is to push you to make something happen. This is to make you be the one to acknowledge it, be the one to say the unsaid feelings, be the one to try, and be the brave one.
The first is for self-awareness, this is to encourage you to be the start of a better ending.
A better ending is waiting, whether the other person is willing to try or not.
If they are, then you can try to be the best versions of yourselves together. If not, then at least, you will not waste your time figuring out if both of you would fit each other, because there is already a given answer that you guys will not.
Taylor Swift did write, “I’ll get your longing glances, but she’ll get your ring.” But she also wrote, “You can hear it in the silence. You can feel it on the way home… You are in love, true love.”
