Do kundali matching points matter in a relationship?
High kundali matching points are not a guarantee of the five things needed for a long term romantic relationship. Low matching kundali points are not necessarily an indicator that you won’t get along either. The truth is somewhere in the middle. In short, you need to use your discernment, because kundali matching is ultimately a tool; a tool like astrology, like using ChatGPT for therapy, etc. It is a tool that represents reflection. With all these tools, discernment is necessary to arrive at a realistic conclusion.
What is kundali matching?
Kundali matching (also known as Kundli Milan or horoscope matching) is a Vedic astrology practice used to evaluate compatibility between two individuals most often for arranged marriages in Indian, Hindu, tradition.
It is a systematic way to assess whether a couple is astrologically harmonious across various dimensions like health, emotional connection, sex, family life, and longevity of the marriage.
And many older generations do, almost blindly. I do not believe in anything blindly. Everything requires discernment.
If you want to punch in your birth date and your significant other I recommend this site: https://www.mpanchang.com/astrology/kundali-matching-report/
Below are examples of matched points and their corresponding meanings. Most of these are self-explanatory. I won’t delve into that in this post. I will point out how some of these points are more necessary than others.
“Health” for example, is a requirement. “Health” can be “off” when matching with someone significantly older than you which may indicate they will die before you (and if they are 20+ years older that is usually true anyway, regardless of what astrology says that is just statistics).
“Sexual aspects” aka sexual energy should be obvious without much explanation. It is interesting though, if you have several boyfriends/girlfriends to compare here how many matching points did you get? (Note: This is sexual energy, not how great the sex was; I am not suggesting you sleep with several people; I recommend you DATE several different people) And if you compare yourself against a match where this is “0” what did you feel?
Above are 8 descriptive areas, but I narrowed these down to 5 in relationships.
To have a successful relationship you need to have one or more of the following:
1. Raw sexual attraction
2. Emotional attunement and safety
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3. Shared life goals and values
4. Longevity and commitment
5. Mutual vulnerability and spiritual connection
Does everyone get all 5? Rarely. You might think you have all five at the beginning of the relationship, then after 15 years of marriage, you have two.
Given the divorce rate and how unhappy people are, statistically, that looks normal to me.
My advice if you are a young person starting to date:
- Date more than one person.
- Date at least three people.
- Compare how you feel. WRITE IT DOWN. Guess how many points you would get with this person in each area.
- And only after you have some assessment, THEN compare the kundali matching points SO YOU ARE NOT BIAS FROM THE BEGINNING!
Did the point system work for you? Or not?
If someone got zero points in a category, do you agree or disagree?
You definitely DO NOT want to get kundali matching points on someone before you meet them.
Why?
Because you will go into it with a bias.
And the point here is to use discernment in conjunction with a tool, to discover truth.
