AgenderNonbinaryGender IdentityAndrogynousTransgender ChildrenMy Agender KidLisa JordanNov 15, 2025--1ListenSharePress enter or click to view image in full sizePhoto by Grace Weltch on UnsplashMy 15-year-old is agender.Not nonbinary.Not genderfluid.Agender.No gender.They don’t identify with gender at all.People ask: “But what does that MEAN?”It means: They’re not a boy. Not a girl. Not in between.Just… them.Without gender.I don’t fully understand it.Get Lisa Jordan’s stories in your inboxJoin Medium for free to get updates from this writer.SubscribeSubscribeRemember me for faster sign inI have a gender.They don’t.But I don’t need to understand.I just need to believe them.They know who they are.Better than I ever did at 15.Better than I did at 41.My agender kid is teaching me:Gender is optional.Identity is personal.And my job is to love them.Exactly as they are.No gender required.
InBelovedbyLisa Jordan·Sep 3You Are MarriedI left as gently as I knew how. Turns out gentle doesn’t buy you a goddamn thing.A response icon19
InPrism & PenbyLisa Jordan·Aug 24I Told My Husband I’d Leave Him for Reba. I Meant It More Than I KnewThe joke came years before Rhonda did. My gut had already voted.A response icon19
InPrism & PenbyLisa Jordan·Aug 29The Coming-Out Conversation I Rehearsed for a MonthI drove my husband to a park so the truth would have somewhere to landA response icon21
InFully HumanbyLisa Jordan·Oct 18Buy Me a Coffee Closed My Account Over $14. I’m Telling You Anyway.It’s not the money. It’s that fighting back costs more than the loss. That’s how it works.A response icon1
NakedWitness·Nov 4Transgender and alone as usualIt happened again this weekend (October 2026). An afternoon out for the family, or should I say half the family, or less than that: a…A response icon3
InFully HumanbyLisa Jordan·Jun 15They Said Be Yourself But Nobody Told Me Who That WasThey told me to be myself, like it was the simplest thing in the world. Like I hadn’t spent the better part of four decades shapeshifting…A response icon3
Amber Rinne·2d agoThe Only Security I Have Is HimOn safety, acceptance, and the terrible price of being seenA response icon1
ElizaBeth·Aug 19Have You Heard of Petra Parker, the Trans Spider-woman?I love this community so much.A response icon1
InPrism & PenbyOtsokai Ko·Nov 2Open Letter From a Trans Woman to Her GrandchildrenTo my six grandchildren, most of whom I have yet to meetA response icon4
