Do I know when to keep mum?

“Speech is silver, silence is golden.” This is something which I knew or was made aware of when growing up. Then silver was an inexpensive metal, but now it is not. So in that context, I was urged to be more silent than to respond or react.

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Being silent means a lot. I understand, or that is what I perceived. You tend to observe a lot more. It is as if there is some muscle somewhere that gets honed to grasp every small detail. These details can be excruciatingly intense as well. Sometimes it can be the feelings which the other person emanated when they said something, this can be an assumption on your side as well. In some cases, people remember excruciating details like the colour of the dress and what gesture you had and such. The human brain is definitely very powerful and resourceful. It can store much more than we think; we just have to hone that “muscle”. I guess.

This is a skill which we all start forming in our early years, based on the environment we are in. If you are in one such environment where parents are expressive, you tend to be more verbal, and internalisation of feelings would be minimal.

Otherwise, as mine, I analysed a lot inside and never validated, and thus a lot…