Love Thy Self
On being perfectly imperfect
One fine day, you don’t feel like getting out of bed. You feel listless, heavy, unwilling. And that is absolutely fine.
Don’t drown yourself in guilt because you overate, or had a late night, or simply have nothing left to give this morning. It happens to all of us. We need not be perfect. We can be — and this is the truer, kinder goal — perfectly imperfect. The only thing worth aiming at is to be the best version of yourself. No comparisons.
The quiet violence of comparison
Here is what matters most: to love thyself.
So much of our suffering is self-inflicted. Out of frustration at the opportunities we feel we missed, or from measuring ourselves against others, we begin to turn on ourselves. A quiet hatred creeps in. I have wasted time. I have spoilt the past.
But look closely at what that does. Brooding over a past you cannot change, you spoil something you still hold in your hands — the present. And in spoiling the present, you quietly hand over the future too. The regret meant to honour lost time only wastes more of it.
So do not stress over what was. It is done. It asks nothing of you now.
Begin with the body
When the mind will not settle, begin with the body — it is the simpler doorway.
Get out of bed. Go for a walk. If you can, walk on grass, barefoot, and let the earth meet your feet. Gaze at the rising sun for ten seconds — and then close your eyes, and let the warmth stay with you a moment longer.
It is a small thing. But small things, done gently and daily, are how we come home to ourselves.
Make peace with your story
Here is a thought worth holding: our life, for the most part, is the life we wanted to live — even when the decisions that shaped it were not made consciously. The path is ours, whether or not we chose each turn deliberately.
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So overcome what was. Turn your attention instead to what is — and to how it might, from here, become better. Not perfect. Better.
One mudra a day
This is where a simple practice can quietly change things. One mudra a day can transform you from within — bringing clarity of thought, and helping you rediscover who you are beneath the noise and the self-judgement.
Try it across four days, and let it be an experiment in self-acquaintance:
• Day one — Hakini Mudra, for integration and clarity of mind.
• Day two — Jnana Mudra, for wisdom and quiet focus.
• Day three — Prithvi Mudra, for grounding and steadiness.
• Day four — Samana Mudra, for balance and inner nourishment.
Hakini Mudra
Hold each one. Observe your day. Notice your thoughts, without judging them — simply watching what shifts.
And then tell me what you found. Share your experience in the comments below — I would love to hear how these four quiet days moved something in you.
Be gentle with yourself today. That is where everything begins.
And if the heaviness runs deeper than a single fine day — if it stays, and dims everything — please reach out to someone you trust, or a doctor or counsellor. Loving yourself sometimes means letting others help carry it. You are worth that care.
