Hook up culture an open door to hell
Yes do anything in the name of plesuare, the cost? Dont worry about it, you are young as long you are carefull nothing bad will happed. Is okay, we live in a soulless world, fit the norm.
That is one the bigest lies people keep buying. Doing things in the name of plasuare is going to cost you your soul.
And before you call me religious i will tell you. I didn’t grow up in a religious home; on the contrary, in my house, diverse ideologies and ideas were always discussed, it was a modern hosehold. Everything could be debated, and everyone chose their own paths and their own values. But there was one rule imposed on everyone equally: you could only play two games, you could explore your sexuality without any kind of recrimination, explore a little who you are, what you like, and if you didn’t, that was fine too; you could wait until marriage, or only have sex while you where in a relacionship, just dont get pregnant. I was lucky, i could ask questions and feel free about.
My grandmother, a psychologist, she was open about it, but she was not sweet about it, the true were rash and raw, and a lot of times i didnt like it. One of those true was the hook up culture was encouraged long before adulthood and adolescence, often starting even in childhood and that a lot times trauma help it grow. I remember the rumors at school about which girl had already had her first kiss and which hadn’t, which was a saint and which was promiscuous, and we were kids. In the years that followed, during my adolescence, everyone talked about sex, but no one really knew what it was, it was to get the job done?, to kiss? to have sex with a lot of people? . My grandmother told me that sexuality wasn’t just physical; it began with consent, with boundaries, with knowing ourselves, how to treat others, how we treat ourselves, what we allow and what we don’t, understanding emotions, understanding the connection between human beings — all of that initiates in sexuality. In more developed countries, children are taught about it as an integral part of life, and things don’t become physical until later in adulthood, and the take descions with awereness and understanding.
Sexuality is something beautiful, naturally. With the beautiful things in the world, it does what it does best: ruin them. How? Make it a business. And that how hook up culture was created, a litle bit of context everything changes with the years, before the cultere aroud it was rigid, no sex before marrige and all that, with the sexual liberation of women in the last decade, the norms surrounding sex culture changed. Women could choose, and with access to contraception, the game changed completely, and that seed grew into what it is today.
Thats a fact, well i have another fact for you. The culture we as a society created is making us miserable.
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One of the most important parts of sexuality is connection, and that what the hook up culture took from us. And I’m not just saying that; it’s basic biological chemistry, an article in efflair by my Store Admin on Oct 04, 2025 it explains in a deep level what hapends, its a bond not only of plesuare, but conections. During sex, hormones such as oxytocin (of love and bonding), dopamine (pleasure and reward), and vasopressin (attachment and monogamy) are released, in addition to endorphins (natural painkillers) and serotonin (well-being), creating a “cocktail” that induces pleasure, reduces stress, and strengthens the emotional connection. Thats the key concept. The human body is programmed so that sex creates a connection; it’s a form of intimacy and plesure.
Clearly, nobody read the fine print, and sexuality became a business, and a very miserable one at that. You only have to look at Tinder subscriptions, at what people pay for the chance that someone else will even look at them. And if you do manage to find someone on Tinder, at a party, or in a bar, you’ll quickly realize that everyone is in it for their own pleasure. Yes, go, meet, kiss, sleep with strangers, but at what cost? In the surface level, what everyone knows: sexual transmission, an unwanted pregnancy, being called a slut maybe if you’re a woman, a bad sex, a bit of social backlash, money spent on contraception, that normaly is expensive, a hormonal imbalance if you’re a woman on contraception, which isn’t pretty at all. But i see a deper problem with is.
The concept of if you are not paying for it you are the product aplies to the bussnies logic of hook up culture, we become the product to consume, we are dehumanizing ourselves in the name of plesuare. At the cost of the emptiness in your stomach, of knowing that we’ve objectified ourselves. Something to be used rather than to be loved, and people put their worth up to that level sex end up being an act of pleasure only, not of connection. And yes, I’ve heard many people say that it doesn’t affect them emotionally, but based on the fact that we are made of soul and body and if the three are properly connected, it will affect us. Being part of hook up culure its s a quick way to disconnect the body or mind from each other.
And I’m not the only one saying this; you only need to look at articles or books to get reference points such as The American Pschological Association and dig into the concequenses in the psycology of people if yoy dont belive me, and if you still have doubts, you only need to open Tinder to see the basic profile descriptions. Everyone is using themselves as merchandise, marketing themselves as merchandise to sell, who is tall or short, who they are, how they look, and people dont care. Who is looking for a relationship? Who just wants to spend the night together?
Everyone wants a quick, immediate connection. In the name of pleasure, we have lost the connection, not to mention the social danger: women labeled as prostitutes by society and men as heroes; inceles who can’t get any kind of connection because they’ve been brainwashed; girls who feel pressured to adopt sexual attitudes from the time they are basically children.
It’s not easy. Everyone seems to be pressuring us to become a product, that the concept of be wild and try everything once in hook up culture, that female empowerment through sleeping with everyone, as a souless man. Genuinely ask yourself if at the end of the day that immediate and quick connection is really going to replace real love, finding yourself. If that guy with a dubious attitude who invited you to watch Netflix is genuinely going to fill the void that makes you question whether you are loved or not. What do you genuinely want? Is it what you’ve been taught to believe? I don’t know a single person with good mental health who will tell you that the solution is that relationships are useless, that they are too complicated, humans are supose to be complicate, people want to be loved so badly that the will go to the extent of geting a fake and pricy version of it. Learn to please yourself, to know yourself, to love yoursef before believing in that dirty lie.
Is it worth disrupting our own harmony in the name of pleasure when what we truly desire is real love? Real love does not cost you yours soul.
Hook up cultere is a open door to hell
