Self-Abandonment vs. Self-Preservation: How to Know When You’re Betraying Yourself to Keep Others Comfortable

I lost a 15-year friendship because I finally told the truth about something that had been bothering me for years.

She said I was ‘too intense.’ That I ‘should have just let it go.’

Here’s what I wish someone had asked me before I spent another decade swallowing my truth to keep the peace:

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‘What are you protecting by staying quiet? And what is it costing you?’

That’s the kind of question that interrupts the self-abandonment before it becomes your identity.

The kind of question that reminds you:

𝐘𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐭𝐫𝐮𝐭𝐡 𝐢𝐬 𝐧𝐨𝐭 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐩𝐫𝐨𝐛𝐥𝐞𝐦. 𝐓𝐡𝐞𝐢𝐫 𝐜𝐨𝐦𝐟𝐨𝐫𝐭 𝐰𝐢𝐭𝐡 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐬𝐢𝐥𝐞𝐧𝐜𝐞 𝐢𝐬.

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