All The Perhaps
“Why do people treat someone badly when they no longer love them?”
That was what I thought as I stared at the message I had sent to my boyfriend — the one he left on read.
When I started to feel that his feelings for me were fading, I always looked for excuses to deny it, like…
Oh, perhaps he doesn’t know how to treat someone right because of his life circumstances.
Oh, perhaps he’s just busy right now.
Oh, perhaps there are a bunch of things on his mind.
Oh, perhaps…
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All those “perhaps” helped me find reasons to understand why he did those things to me. But lately, I cannot think that way anymore. I’ve come to the conclusion that, at the end of the day, people’s feelings can fade — even when at the beginning, both were so sure they would love each other endlessly.
Until now, I still don’t know what makes people lose feelings for someone they once loved.
Is it because the other person did something that bothered them?
Is it because they no longer understand each other?
Is it because one or both of them got bored?
Or because something else became more important?
Or perhaps it is the combination of all of those.
All of those reasons are, indeed, valid.
But instead of hating or hurting each other, wouldn’t it be better to simply let the other person know — “I don’t love you anymore, because of this, that, and those. So, let’s end this.”?
Because at least then, both hearts could rest — not in anger, not in confusion, but in understanding that love, sometimes, simply ends.
