Bluntly
Many people think of me as effective — Just Google me. But it may be helpful to you if I report the reality.
Career counseling. Too few of my clients make visible progress: land a good job or succeed much beyond what they would have without my help.
Writing: I get few views, comments, and shares. A year ago, I had 2,020 followers on X. Now, despite posting regularly, I’m down to 1,890. My recent books? I’ve bought more copies to give away than have been sold to others.
Rose breeding. For 40 years, I’ve been developing miniature roses that don’t need spraying. I’ve created thousands of seedlings but only two that might deserve commercial introduction. More likely, they’ll end up as gifts to give away.
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Public speaking. I’ve given many talks, workshops, even keynote addresses, but rarely does an audience member invite me to speak at their event. My YouTubes average just 40 views, and my How to Do Life podcast? Flatline.
My relationships. Although my wife and I have been together for half a century, she is tepid toward me. My daughter? We’re civil. I have a half-dozen friends with whom I speak regularly but generally must avoid politics or anything too serious.
My piano playing. I’m stuck in the ’50s, mainly playing nursing-home favorites like Autumn Leaves.
I am unsure whether bluntness is helpful.
I read this aloud on YouTube.
Marty Nemko is a career and personal coach, and author of 35 books including A Dose of Reality. You can reach him at mnemko@gmail.com
