Moments of Silence
I am growing in appreciation of moments of silence.
In conversation, taking just a “one-one-thousand” before responding makes the conversation more relaxed and gives the person time to think of something to add. That’s often evolved thinking, clarified from having said something about it. Waiting one second also shows respect, that I’d rather hear what the person has to say than jumping in with my pearls.
When I’m alone, silence reduces my tendency to respond too quickly. Also, I needn’t allocate brainpower to how to respond with emotional and cognitive intelligence.
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Then there’s the pleasure. I get plenty of external stimulation so respite is welcome. I enjoy sitting in my favorite chair, in silence or with soft instrumental music such as Percy Faith.
A final plus for silence is its availability 24/7/365 for free. And if home is too noisy, try a library, cafe, church, or community room.
We live in an ever noisier world, for example, the relentless information tsunami and ambient sound, especially in the city and in offices. I welcome moments of silence. Maybe you could use some?
I read this aloud on YouTube.
Marty Nemko is a career and personal coach, and author of 36 books including How to Do Life. You can reach him at mnemko@gmail.com
