Dating Dealbreaker: Wanting Children
Recently, I have entered into the arranged marriage space. I went on to dating apps even though I felt that dating apps were hopeless.
I have been going on dates and on the first date, I will bring up the kid card. Some people say it is too soon and I say that it has to be brought up because I do not want to waste time. It led to us separating our own ways or some guys bring up these statements:
“what about your blood line?”
“Don’t you want a little mini you running around?”
“You know it is hard to find someone in the Indian community who doesn’t want kids.”
There are many more….
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I am 25 years old and I have been deadset about it since I was around 16–18. I never thought about it before then, I don’t even remember how many kids I wanted. I have a lot of reasons why I don’t want kids:
- I do not want anyone to depend on me. I just have grown to love my own company.
- I have the freedom to move around and go wherever I want to go. No one is going to hold me back
- I can buy and eat whatever I want without looking back
- Sometimes, I would rather be the child instead of having a child
- I can read a nice book in my bathtub drinking apple cider (fall season) without any disturbance.
- I am not going to conform into society’s rules.
- I am not going to partake in the circle of life, it is making me dizzy
Recently, I have been asking myself these two questions:
“Do I want kids?”
“Do I need kids?”
Then I tell myself :
“Naw, I love my peace and quiet and my nights eating whatever life offers me”
Right now, I am currently taking my time in living the life I have right now. All I know is that I might not need/want my prince charming in my life right now because I have myself and the people that matter to me the most.
