9/30/2026
Who’s Your Oppressor?
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When you go through an awakening it’s like facing the ghost from Christmas past. Observing yourself from a higher vantage point. It’s painful, especially when you realize that there is no one to blame for your past decisions, not even yourself. All you can do is face the fact that you could have made better decisions but in “reality”, you knew no better. Which is why raising a child is a very tedious job, because you owe them that patience and understanding too. Speaking of children, that’s really where it all started isn’t it? How much love, affection, compassion, attention, understanding and GUIDANCE was given to you. What if no one was there because the only people that were there were manifestations of oppression. However, at some point you have to take responsibility for whether you react or respond to situations in your life and learn so you can grow; but it takes a certain level of awareness that many people are not conscious enough to evolve into. So where do you start, how do you get there?
The growth starts with the painful recognition of exhaustion from the victim’s mindset. One thing many people have in common is being a victim. That is why so many dynamics are built on trauma bonding. It’s so easy to look back at the past and feel neglected educationally, the “if I only knew what I knew now”. Well, the truth is you know now, so what are you going to do about it. That’s the part no one wants to face, that’s where oppression sets in. Finding ways to numb yourself from the pain unconsciously. There is no running from the pain and at some point, we must face it, face OURSELVES. If we don’t we stay stuck in the same cycles, never changing, never growing, never understanding. The true aha moment is the understanding. You spend all this time wondering why the thoughts and the emotions are too much to bare. The answer is you have no idea why they are there in the first place. If everything happens for a reason, wouldn’t your own thoughts count too, wouldn’t every situation, every moment, every second have meaning. How will you ever understand if you refuse to look beyond what you see, beyond what you feel, beyond other peoples’ perceptions, beyond the illusions. Whose reality are you living in and how’s that going for you? Is it the one from that one person on tv, the person next door, your friend, your parents, your classmates, or you. Do you know who you are, how you became who you are, or why you do the things you do; do you?
