Ideal Life
An ideal life for any person involves a life with a purpose/direction and daily actions related to that glorious purpose. The habits for those actions should also be sustainable in order to be truly ideal. Why is it more ideal? Because it indirectly provides more gratification rather than doing actions that directly give gratification in the long term.
In order to sustain this ideal life or at least the habits or mindset related to it, a person needs to think from both masculine and feminine thinking.
In an ideal world it is possible for a person to do things/actions that are “productive” only, but in reality we cannot function this way due to the human brain being wired only for instant and primal gratifications.
The reason why a purpose is needed in order for a great life is because true freedom leads to people losing hope for each passing day.
A slave to something that a person believes in is a more accurate representation of freedom rather than a person with the choice to do anything but is lost.
Masculine thinking refers to the type of thinking where a person seeks achievement and purpose, and emphasizes discipline and responsibility. Feminine thinking refers to the type of thinking where the focus is on understanding and a person seeks connection and harmony. An ideal person regardless of their gender has to have both types of thinking to attain an ideal life.
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For example, a person who is hardworking but does not interact with society will probably suffer from mental illnesses, and a person who only focuses on connecting with people and does not focus on their glorious purpose, whatever it may be, will not be valued by society and indirectly lose value by all people through forms of opinion or the truth.
A human’s value is decided not by birth but through their actions and wills. A person who is poor but daily does actions/work regarding his duty is of higher value than a rich person who does not do anything and simply wastes their life.
Does this mean that each action we take in our entire life should be towards our purpose/duties (dharma)? Maybe in an ideal world where us humans were designed for long-term gratification.
But this is not the case as we are built for instant gratification and lose focus and determination while doing our duties for a long amount of time.
This is where feminine thinking plays a role where it acts as a catalyst for consistency towards our glorious purpose. The activities which are of no use towards our duty can act as a way of happiness to refresh us or reinforce our will for the current time period.
In my opinion an ideal life in our unideal world focuses on a person’s glorious purpose primarily but should also focus on connecting with people and being kind/the things outside our glorious purpose to keep our soul happy and indirectly make us consistent to our dharma.
A life full of comfort and perfection is a life full of loss of purpose whereas life of comfort made through actions and hardships is truly sustainable and actually fulfilling life.
