You’re responsible
The more we choose to accept responsibility in our lives, the more power we will exercise over our lives. Accepting responsibility for our problems is thus the first step to solving them.
– Mark Mason.
In 2023 and 2024, I made some (very awful) mistakes (that I'm not still proud of till today). And whenever I thought about it, I always felt bad. But instead of taking (whether full or half) responsibility, I gave the whole blame to the other parties involved.
But when 2025 began, I was tired of lying around in my shit. So, I claimed full responsibility and blame, and somehow (with the help of God), I was able to heal.
Now, even if I feel bad about those situations, I don't feel sooooooooooooo bad like I felt some years ago. Also, taking responsibility has guided me in not making those mistakes again.
I'm currently reading “The Subtle Art of not giving a f##k,” by Mark Mason and Chapter 5 says, “You are always Choosing.”
The summary of the whole chapter is this: Life can be shitty at times, but you alone are responsible for how you feel about certain (and every) situations in your life.
Some things that happen in our life are (definitely) not our fault. Like loosing a loved one, born with a disability, being robbed, etc. These are examples of everyday actions that happen in our lives that are (most times) not our fault.
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But it's (definitely) our responsibility for how we react and feel towards them. You lost a loved one, so will you just wallow in pity forever while questioning how cruel life can be?
When I lost my mom, I felt that life was sooooooooooo unfair. She didn’t deserve to die (no one deserves to). Even if we must all die, couldn’t death have waited till we, her children were old enough?
These are questions I always asked myself. Unfortunately, I never got an answer. While it wasn't my fault that she died, I had the responsibility to either make a living out of my life despite the odds or let everyone pity the hell out of me (afterall,I'm motherless and motherless children are counted as less privileged, lol).
So, I ask today: Will you take responsibility for whatever life (or other people) has dished you or you'd continue blaming them?
The sad part about not (consciously) taking responsibility is that, you're still taking responsibility — of not taking responsibility. So, it'll be wayyyyyyy better if you consciously take responsibility today.
Now, I’m not saying you shouldn’t blame people for being shitty when they are, blame them and blame yourself for putting yourself in a situation where you have to deal with a shitty person (I mean, birds of the same feather flock together, right).
Taking responsibility is the first step in healing.
Take responsibility today.
Be responsible.
